Anonymous wrote:I’m a widow who has recently gone back out into the dating world at 39. It’s very different from when I was dating pre-marriage in my early. I guess I’m pry because most of the good guys are now taken.

A surprising issue I’m running into when being back on the market is blatant misogyny. I go on dates a men rant about “all women this, all women that…”. It’s a turn off. I’m not sure if it’s because they are the leftover guys or because maybe something culturally shifted while I was married? I want to avoid these kind of guys. What should I be on the lookout for?

I can't answer your question until you explain what the bolded sentence means. Pry?

Anonymous wrote:I’m a widow who has recently gone back out into the dating world at 39. It’s very different from when I was dating pre-marriage in my early. I guess I’m pry because most of the good guys are now taken.

A surprising issue I’m running into when being back on the market is blatant misogyny. I go on dates a men rant about “all women this, all women that…”. It’s a turn off. I’m not sure if it’s because they are the leftover guys or because maybe something culturally shifted while I was married? I want to avoid these kind of guys. What should I be on the lookout for?

There's more of this if you use the apps. Avoid the apps.

Weird how a seemingly benign question turned into an incel rant

[quote=Anonymous]There are many women like that this too. I see women online all the time whining about all men are bad. Lots of division among the sexes. [/quote]

Totally. This kind of gender based bashing seems almost more present, and even tolerated more by society, when it’s women doing it. I feel like with this massive push for egalitarian and anti-sexism, and the me too generation there is almost this hyper vigilance for any perceived sexism. Women are eclipsing men in school and career, but there also seems to be this pervasive mindset that everything is about “combatting the patriarchy”, and so any perceived slight is immediately pounced on.

Anonymous wrote:You’re in the forum that’s “all men this, all men that” and you’re complaining about blanket condemnation of an entire gender?

OP here. I’m only speaking from my dating perspective. I do not agree with blanket statements about any gender. It’s really immature and inaccurate.

You’re in the forum that’s “all men this, all men that” and you’re complaining about blanket condemnation of an entire gender?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are many women like that this too. I see women online all the time whining about all men are bad. Lots of division among the sexes.

When someone harbors these sort of resentments should it be an immediate dealbreaker for dating?

Yes. From either side it’s a huge issue.

Agree it would be an immediate dealbreaker for me.

The fact that there are also women like this doesn’t take away from the fact that these guys are toxic and no one should date them.

What happened is the internet and weird Reddit subcultures. People get hooked, and they get kind of crazy. I don’t know how to screen for it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are many women like that this too. I see women online all the time whining about all men are bad. Lots of division among the sexes.

When someone harbors these sort of resentments should it be an immediate dealbreaker for dating?

Yes. From either side it’s a huge issue.

Maybe date other women instead?

Anonymous wrote:There are many women like that this too. I see women online all the time whining about all men are bad. Lots of division among the sexes.

When someone harbors these sort of resentments should it be an immediate dealbreaker for dating?

There are many women like that this too. I see women online all the time whining about all men are bad. Lots of division among the sexes.

Anonymous wrote:They likely went through a bitter divorce and can’t get over it. Plenty of women hate their exes so it’s not just a male thing.

It’s one thing to hate your ex. It’s another thing to hate a whole gender.

They likely went through a bitter divorce and can’t get over it. Plenty of women hate their exes so it’s not just a male thing.

I’m a widow who has recently gone back out into the dating world at 39. It’s very different from when I was dating pre-marriage in my early. I guess I’m pry because most of the good guys are now taken.

A surprising issue I’m running into when being back on the market is blatant misogyny. I go on dates a men rant about “all women this, all women that…”. It’s a turn off. I’m not sure if it’s because they are the leftover guys or because maybe something culturally shifted while I was married? I want to avoid these kind of guys. What should I be on the lookout for?