Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:he doesn't mind rotating, except now it seems like he's permanently on the weaker team in defense. it's almost been five months, and to a 9-year-old it is like eternity. he has become better and better during these 5 months because he wanted to get out of the weaker team and his position, but it doesn't seem to lead to any changes. while in the past, he was quite sensitive to my son's progress.

i just don't know if this is because he is on scholarship. wouldn't the club want the player they pay for to play at the stronger team and in the most effective position? it just doesn't make sense to me.

the real problem is that he doesn't see a way out. if he makes efforts, his teammates cannot possess the ball and they loses. if he is discouraged and doesn't work extra hard, they loses. after working so hard for almost five months, this past week he finally became unmotivated, and it is just hard to see. and this weak team is likely to stay weak for a long time, so he will always have to stay on this team? we seriously ask ourselves, should we stay or should we leave.

but is this the same with other clubs for the scholarship players?

You seem like a terrible helicopter parent. Maybe try tennis?

don't think you understand the pressure and sacrifice of playing at this level, especially at this young age.

just hope someone who has gone through something similar with us could share some real insights.

Your DS is on the second team. So he’s not at “this level.” It sounds like the club wants to develop your DS, making him into a more well rounded player. I mean I moved our kid to a different club that will play him in a variety of positions. I was told by a coach that specializing in a position doesn’t really happen until U13. That’s a good thing esp at u9 to get that experience.

If your DS or u are fixated only on winning or doing things that is fun for your DS, your DS will never make it at the higher levels.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:he doesn't mind rotating, except now it seems like he's permanently on the weaker team in defense. it's almost been five months, and to a 9-year-old it is like eternity. he has become better and better during these 5 months because he wanted to get out of the weaker team and his position, but it doesn't seem to lead to any changes. while in the past, he was quite sensitive to my son's progress.

i just don't know if this is because he is on scholarship. wouldn't the club want the player they pay for to play at the stronger team and in the most effective position? it just doesn't make sense to me.

the real problem is that he doesn't see a way out. if he makes efforts, his teammates cannot possess the ball and they loses. if he is discouraged and doesn't work extra hard, they loses. after working so hard for almost five months, this past week he finally became unmotivated, and it is just hard to see. and this weak team is likely to stay weak for a long time, so he will always have to stay on this team? we seriously ask ourselves, should we stay or should we leave.

but is this the same with other clubs for the scholarship players?

You seem like a terrible helicopter parent. Maybe try tennis?

don't think you understand the pressure and sacrifice of playing at this level, especially at this young age.

just hope someone who has gone through something similar with us could share some real insights.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:he doesn't mind rotating, except now it seems like he's permanently on the weaker team in defense. it's almost been five months, and to a 9-year-old it is like eternity. he has become better and better during these 5 months because he wanted to get out of the weaker team and his position, but it doesn't seem to lead to any changes. while in the past, he was quite sensitive to my son's progress.

i just don't know if this is because he is on scholarship. wouldn't the club want the player they pay for to play at the stronger team and in the most effective position? it just doesn't make sense to me.

the real problem is that he doesn't see a way out. if he makes efforts, his teammates cannot possess the ball and they loses. if he is discouraged and doesn't work extra hard, they loses. after working so hard for almost five months, this past week he finally became unmotivated, and it is just hard to see. and this weak team is likely to stay weak for a long time, so he will always have to stay on this team? we seriously ask ourselves, should we stay or should we leave.

but is this the same with other clubs for the scholarship players?

You seem like a terrible helicopter parent. Maybe try tennis?

don't think you understand the pressure and sacrifice of playing at this level, especially at this young age.

just hope someone who has gone through something similar with us could share some real insights.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:he doesn't mind rotating, except now it seems like he's permanently on the weaker team in defense. it's almost been five months, and to a 9-year-old it is like eternity. he has become better and better during these 5 months because he wanted to get out of the weaker team and his position, but it doesn't seem to lead to any changes. while in the past, he was quite sensitive to my son's progress.

i just don't know if this is because he is on scholarship. wouldn't the club want the player they pay for to play at the stronger team and in the most effective position? it just doesn't make sense to me.

the real problem is that he doesn't see a way out. if he makes efforts, his teammates cannot possess the ball and they loses. if he is discouraged and doesn't work extra hard, they loses. after working so hard for almost five months, this past week he finally became unmotivated, and it is just hard to see. and this weak team is likely to stay weak for a long time, so he will always have to stay on this team? we seriously ask ourselves, should we stay or should we leave.

but is this the same with other clubs for the scholarship players?

You seem like a terrible helicopter parent. Maybe try tennis?

Anonymous wrote:he doesn't mind rotating, except now it seems like he's permanently on the weaker team in defense. it's almost been five months, and to a 9-year-old it is like eternity. he has become better and better during these 5 months because he wanted to get out of the weaker team and his position, but it doesn't seem to lead to any changes. while in the past, he was quite sensitive to my son's progress.

i just don't know if this is because he is on scholarship. wouldn't the club want the player they pay for to play at the stronger team and in the most effective position? it just doesn't make sense to me.

the real problem is that he doesn't see a way out. if he makes efforts, his teammates cannot possess the ball and they loses. if he is discouraged and doesn't work extra hard, they loses. after working so hard for almost five months, this past week he finally became unmotivated, and it is just hard to see. and this weak team is likely to stay weak for a long time, so he will always have to stay on this team? we seriously ask ourselves, should we stay or should we leave.

but is this the same with other clubs for the scholarship players?

Anonymous wrote:he doesn't mind rotating, except now it seems like he's permanently on the weaker team in defense. it's almost been five months, and to a 9-year-old it is like eternity. he has become better and better during these 5 months because he wanted to get out of the weaker team and his position, but it doesn't seem to lead to any changes. while in the past, he was quite sensitive to my son's progress.

i just don't know if this is because he is on scholarship. wouldn't the club want the player they pay for to play at the stronger team and in the most effective position? it just doesn't make sense to me.

the real problem is that he doesn't see a way out. if he makes efforts, his teammates cannot possess the ball and they loses. if he is discouraged and doesn't work extra hard, they loses. after working so hard for almost five months, this past week he finally became unmotivated, and it is just hard to see. and this weak team is likely to stay weak for a long time, so he will always have to stay on this team? we seriously ask ourselves, should we stay or should we leave.

but is this the same with other clubs for the scholarship players?

Anonymous wrote:my son (U9) was placed on the weaker team since he joined the club last fall but he was playing forward. he got some injuries by the end of last season that impacted his performance. he was put to defense during the winter and now the spring season starting, and it continues to be that way. he wants to get back to the forward position and go to the stronger team because he simply has beat each one of them and scored against the stronger team while leading the weaker team. he is fast and aggressive and good with shooting, and he is one of the top players. i have talked to the coach. he said playing defense in the white team will do my son good so he can learn to survey the field. but the white team is so weak that it simply makes my son unmotivated to play his best.

is this a rule that once you take the scholarship you have to do something for the club such as babysitting the weak team?

also it seems the coach wants to put the strongest player, my son, in the back, and put the weakest in the front. does this make sense?

they haven't got any new players in since we joined, and it seems the weak team is going to stay as it is. i don't know how long we need to put up with this, but to leave the club and rescind the scholarship seems to be unwise. it's really hard to decide what to do.

anyone has done this could give any suggestions?