Yes, discuss it with him. I would be furious tbh.

I don’t fe strongly either way. I don’t think it’s as appalling as you do but I’d probably be slightly annoyed.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A nine year old should absolutely be capable of hanging by themselves for a half hour. Hell, they should be capable of locking the door and going to the bus stop on time without adult supervision.

This. BUT, if DH is going to take her to the bus stop, he should be responsible for setting an alarm clock and getting up on his own. What time are we talking? Laziness is such a turn off, but I am sure you were aware of his laziness before marrying him.

OP here. They need to be out the door by 7:40am to get to the bus. It's not that she can't or isn't responsible for herself, I just think he's being lazy. He actually wasn't lazy at all when I met him.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A nine year old should absolutely be capable of hanging by themselves for a half hour. Hell, they should be capable of locking the door and going to the bus stop on time without adult supervision.

OP here. She's totally fine to be by herself, I don't have safety concerns about it or anything. I think it's too far for her to walk on her own by herself. The bus stop isn't super close to our house and our neighborhood doesn't have sidewalks.

My issue is more that she's being responsible for her parent to wake him up on time. He should set an alarm is my point.

It's not like he's an overnight shift worker ... he works a typical 8-5 job and should be able to get himself up on time by 7:40am IMO.

So tell him a 9 yr old is not a consistently reliable alarm clock and to set one as backup. Why are you crowdsourcing whether and how to talk to your own husband? Something in your relationship is broken if you need help with this.

OP here. I'm just asking opinions, like 99% of the threads on this website. Feel free to ignore particular posts.

Anonymous wrote:A nine year old should absolutely be capable of hanging by themselves for a half hour. Hell, they should be capable of locking the door and going to the bus stop on time without adult supervision.

This. BUT, if DH is going to take her to the bus stop, he should be responsible for setting an alarm clock and getting up on his own. What time are we talking? Laziness is such a turn off, but I am sure you were aware of his laziness before marrying him.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A nine year old should absolutely be capable of hanging by themselves for a half hour. Hell, they should be capable of locking the door and going to the bus stop on time without adult supervision.

OP here. She's totally fine to be by herself, I don't have safety concerns about it or anything. I think it's too far for her to walk on her own by herself. The bus stop isn't super close to our house and our neighborhood doesn't have sidewalks.

My issue is more that she's being responsible for her parent to wake him up on time. He should set an alarm is my point.

It's not like he's an overnight shift worker ... he works a typical 8-5 job and should be able to get himself up on time by 7:40am IMO.

So tell him a 9 yr old is not a consistently reliable alarm clock and to set one as backup. Why are you crowdsourcing whether and how to talk to your own husband? Something in your relationship is broken if you need help with this.

Anonymous wrote:What's DH doing instead of going to bed earlier at night?

Watching TV, reading, etc. Nothing crazy, but he's not coming to bed till like 1am.

Anonymous wrote:A nine year old should absolutely be capable of hanging by themselves for a half hour. Hell, they should be capable of locking the door and going to the bus stop on time without adult supervision.

OP here. She's totally fine to be by herself, I don't have safety concerns about it or anything. I think it's too far for her to walk on her own by herself. The bus stop isn't super close to our house and our neighborhood doesn't have sidewalks.

My issue is more that she's being responsible for her parent to wake him up on time. He should set an alarm is my point.

It's not like he's an overnight shift worker ... he works a typical 8-5 job and should be able to get himself up on time by 7:40am IMO.

She could do homework or something productive before school, and play with DH in the afternoon/evening.

What's DH doing instead of going to bed earlier at night?

I think it's great that she is learning responsibility. DH should set an alarm too though

A nine year old should absolutely be capable of hanging by themselves for a half hour. Hell, they should be capable of locking the door and going to the bus stop on time without adult supervision.

Why can’t she get herself to the bus stop? I don’t thing it’s an issue that he sleeps until it’s time to leave. I have mixed feeling on a nine year old waking a parent to ask for a ride but ultimately wouldn’t make an issue of it.

Definitely bring this up to DH. He should get up when you're leaving.

I have to leave for the office 30-45 minutes before DD's bus comes. I wake her up in the morning to spend time with her, make her breakfast, help her with her hair, etc (she's almost 9). DH WFH and takes her to the bus. When I leave, he's still asleep. Today I was able to take her to the bus due to a later meeting and she mentioned how she liked that vs. her hanging out by herself after I leave and how she has to wake DH for him to get her to the bus on time. I generally let him know when I'm leaving and was under the impression that he was getting up after I left. Apparently not, and DD is waking him up 5 minutes before they need to leave.

I'm appalled that a child is responsible for waking up her parent, particularly as she's an only child and she's hanging out by herself. When I leave, she's generally watching TV while eating her breakfast. Am I out of line bringing this up to DH?