Anonymous wrote:What is the difference from having a good friend of the opposite gender.

If you want to have sex with them, it's an emotional affair.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually had an emotional affair and it is so distinct from friendship with someone of the opposite sex. It was so intimate and so sexual and so many boundaries were crossed that I would not cross with a male friend.

OP, if it was sexual then it was not an emotional affair, it was a sexual affair.

But we never had sex! Or even touched in a sexual way! But we did manage to express very intimate and detailed desires for one another. It was hot- and totally nuts.

Whenever I read stuff like this it always amazes me that there are men who participate in strictly EAs without trying to escalate to PA.

How did you get out of this before escalation?

Anonymous wrote:What is the difference from having a good friend of the opposite gender.

Call me.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually had an emotional affair and it is so distinct from friendship with someone of the opposite sex. It was so intimate and so sexual and so many boundaries were crossed that I would not cross with a male friend.

OP, if it was sexual then it was not an emotional affair, it was a sexual affair.

But we never had sex! Or even touched in a sexual way! But we did manage to express very intimate and detailed desires for one another. It was hot- and totally nuts.

Anonymous wrote:I actually had an emotional affair and it is so distinct from friendship with someone of the opposite sex. It was so intimate and so sexual and so many boundaries were crossed that I would not cross with a male friend.

OP, if it was sexual then it was not an emotional affair, it was a sexual affair.

I think that is correct and intimacy and attraction are what make them different. Sharing personal matters and trust but because it is in my case a married person of opposite sex it is easy to slip into romance. I have had one and still do for a long time and didnt even realize it and now have to be very careful around this person especially when alcohol is involved because given the right situation if this person made a pass I would accept! I am sure this person feels the same.

You need to feel that romantic “spark”, that sexual tension and chemistry one gets at the start of a new relationship - and these feelings need to be reciprocated.

The other big clue is secrecy - do you hide this relationship from your spouse? If your spouse saw your interactions, would he/she be okay with it? If not, it’s an EA.

I actually had an emotional affair and it is so distinct from friendship with someone of the opposite sex. It was so intimate and so sexual and so many boundaries were crossed that I would not cross with a male friend.

Anonymous wrote:What is the difference from having a good friend of the opposite gender.

In an emotional affair they actually say things like "I love you and want to be with you" generally followed with "but I can't."

Yeah I'm a guy and the office is full of women I want nothing (romantically) to do with. I work in tech though which is full of borderline autistic men and it's nice to talk to the ladies that have a few more social skills.

Anonymous wrote:There is no such thing as having a "good friend" of the opposite sex. If you're in a relationship of any sort, that person should be your best friend. If they are not then you're not 100% into the relationship.

Any no, men cannot be friends with women they don't want to bang. That's just fact. There might be a .0000001% chance but it's a one off. Always assume if a guy and girl are friends, the guy wants the girl.

There is absolutely such a thing. I have a very good friend at work. We chat during the work day, then go home to our spouses. It just so happens that I'm male and she's female but our relationship wouldn't be any different if we were the same gender.

Anonymous wrote:There is no such thing as having a "good friend" of the opposite sex. If you're in a relationship of any sort, that person should be your best friend. If they are not then you're not 100% into the relationship.

Any no, men cannot be friends with women they don't want to bang. That's just fact. There might be a .0000001% chance but it's a one off. Always assume if a guy and girl are friends, the guy wants the girl.

Are you between the ages of 16 and 26?

Anonymous wrote:There is no such thing as having a "good friend" of the opposite sex. If you're in a relationship of any sort, that person should be your best friend. If they are not then you're not 100% into the relationship.

Any no, men cannot be friends with women they don't want to bang. That's just fact. There might be a .0000001% chance but it's a one off. Always assume if a guy and girl are friends, the guy wants the girl.

What about they are related and friends?

There is no such thing as having a "good friend" of the opposite sex. If you're in a relationship of any sort, that person should be your best friend. If they are not then you're not 100% into the relationship.

Any no, men cannot be friends with women they don't want to bang. That's just fact. There might be a .0000001% chance but it's a one off. Always assume if a guy and girl are friends, the guy wants the girl.

What is the difference from having a good friend of the opposite gender.