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Anonymous wrote:Some version of this question has been discussed multiple times recently here. In my experience, the very social, popular kids still hang out in person plenty. No surprise there. It’s the quieter, more introverted, perhaps a bit awkward kids, who can get sucked into the ease and low risk of online interactions and don’t bother to get together much in person anymore. I have a kid like this and while she has school friends, they never, ever just “hang out.” When they do occasionally do stuff together, it’s almost always an occasion—someone’s birthday or something. In my day, my friends and I would spend hours together, just doing nothing, being together for the sake of being together. Now it seems they just want to stay comfortable—in their rooms or just at home, and if they want to chat with someone, they’ll do it digitally.

I agree with this and don't think it's really much different than pre-technology. Social kids still hang out in person all the time. Less social ones stay home. In our day, we hung out with our parents and stayed up too late watching Cinemax. Now they might be on their phone.

IME, girls are a bit more proactive about organizing than boys. My teen son is in a co-ed friend group and they hang out in person all the time. Friends with sons who don't have any girls in the group, it seems there is less in person hanging out. If my son is going to hang out with just boys, it's more often not planned and just comes up organically or somehow orchestrated by adults. Dinner after a game or they see each other at a sibling event and ask to do something after.

Anonymous wrote:Some version of this question has been discussed multiple times recently here. In my experience, the very social, popular kids still hang out in person plenty. No surprise there. It’s the quieter, more introverted, perhaps a bit awkward kids, who can get sucked into the ease and low risk of online interactions and don’t bother to get together much in person anymore. I have a kid like this and while she has school friends, they never, ever just “hang out.” When they do occasionally do stuff together, it’s almost always an occasion—someone’s birthday or something. In my day, my friends and I would spend hours together, just doing nothing, being together for the sake of being together. Now it seems they just want to stay comfortable—in their rooms or just at home, and if they want to chat with someone, they’ll do it digitally.

+1

My daughter’s closest friends are her teammates. She sees them 5 days a week at practice and all day on the weekends for games. They are very close and even when they aren’t practicing they are always texting, snapping or calling. Most times when she hangs out it’s for a birthday party or a pre planned event like a movie or sports game. She has one or two long time friends that she will have some unstructured hangouts with but thats maybe once or twice a month. She’s always talking to her friends on the phone and is very serious about school, engaged socially and happy so I don’t worry. She is an introvert so when she gets some downtime she’s very happy to relax and not make plans. I used to worry that she didn’t organically make plans more like I did when I was young but as she’s gotten older I’ve realized that even if it looks different she’s still very socially engaged.

I have 18y twins:

Kid 1 - hangs out with friends - either they come to our house or he goes to theirs. Not during the week because of homework/sports/whatever. But on the weekends as schedules allow.

Kid 2 - Never does. He goes to sports practice and socializes and sees friends at school, but rarely hangs out with people outside of school. He does talk to people on the phone/computer (playing games.)

Once my son's friends started drinking and smoking weed, he stopped hanging out with them. He tried for awhile to be DD but got tired of it. He plays a lot of sports and studies hard and plays video games.

This lady has no idea what she is talking about. Phones are to blame for this, A teen will hit a parked car for being on their phone, and they will mostly blame the car for being park there...

Some version of this question has been discussed multiple times recently here. In my experience, the very social, popular kids still hang out in person plenty. No surprise there. It’s the quieter, more introverted, perhaps a bit awkward kids, who can get sucked into the ease and low risk of online interactions and don’t bother to get together much in person anymore. I have a kid like this and while she has school friends, they never, ever just “hang out.” When they do occasionally do stuff together, it’s almost always an occasion—someone’s birthday or something. In my day, my friends and I would spend hours together, just doing nothing, being together for the sake of being together. Now it seems they just want to stay comfortable—in their rooms or just at home, and if they want to chat with someone, they’ll do it digitally.

I didn’t click on the link. My high school student plays 3 sports and all of his friends play sports. They are busy kids and they mostly see teammates during the week. He sees friends on weekends but he often also has sports on weekends too.

My 13yo hangs out with his friends multiple times per week. His school doesn’t have sports so he and his friends also play sports but it isn’t everyday.

With technology, they are able to "hang out" every night. My DC facetimes friends all the time, or is on discord playing video games together. They also get together in person on the weekend.
I'm not clicking a tik tok link either, but I feel like kids are hanging out together more or less the same amt as I did as a teen. Maybe a little differently - I grew up fairly poor (so not big houses with extra space to hang out - we would go to the mall, hang out outside, etc) - now my kids and friends all seem to have houses with family rooms, rec rooms, etc for them to hang out.

Most days yes, they’ll go grab coffee after sports, the ones who live on our street come over for a bit, they go to the gym together, and most weekends they will do movies, mall, go rock climbing or other sporty thing.

My kids are 18, 20 and 23. All of them have always hung out with their friends frequently. They do all the things we did: hanging out at each other's houses, going to get food, playing basketball/tennis/soccer.

I hear that it is common for teens not to get together with friends, though, and I think it's sad. In person socializing is so important.

Not on school nights (they have school sports until 6 and then homework) but they generally see friends both weekend nights.

I'm not clicking on a tik Tok link, but yes. I have three kids in HS and there are always kids here who don't live here.

Mine do, every day.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLDoBxKA/


They will never blame their phones, but what’s the other reason???

My daughter is 5, so I don’t know anything about this yet.
Are most teens are not hanging out with anyone anymore why?

I Just don’t understand why they can’t go to each other houses anymore…: I know 99% of Americans are “poor “now, but I went to a pretty poor schools so most my friends were poor, the way we hangout was going to each houses. Parents just make an extra plate, and we just have fun playing games at home.
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