Anonymous
Post 04/09/2024 05:12     Subject: "How are you?" How do you respond when "fine" is a lie?
I follow up with a genuine invite to get coffee.
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2024 01:41     Subject: "How are you?" How do you respond when "fine" is a lie?
We definitely need to catch up
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2024 01:41     Subject: "How are you?" How do you respond when "fine" is a lie?
Girl we have to talk.

It’s so much going on

I’m hanging in there how about yourself

Well…
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2024 01:39     Subject: "How are you?" How do you respond when "fine" is a lie?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I say I'm fine but a good response is "I've seen better days" or "I'm hanging in there."


I knew someone who always said things like that and it came across as such a passive-aggressive cryptic attention grab. It always turned me off from asking further. Whereas if someone was leaving a party and said "hey can we get together next week for a walk?" I'd say of course and listen to them for hours.


I think it's a totally fine answer and better than, sh&tty I lost another baby last week.


I’d rather they just say I lost a baby last week. At least they’re being honest. Or say I’m not doing well I’ll give you a call tomorrow to talk about it, for now let’s have fun!

The whole I’m not great, my life sux, but I won’t tell you why or ask for help is most miserable because you don’t know how to respond and it also kills the mood all night.


Agree the bolded would be totally fine to say at a party.
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2024 01:34     Subject: "How are you?" How do you respond when "fine" is a lie?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I say I'm fine but a good response is "I've seen better days" or "I'm hanging in there."


I knew someone who always said things like that and it came across as such a passive-aggressive cryptic attention grab. It always turned me off from asking further. Whereas if someone was leaving a party and said "hey can we get together next week for a walk?" I'd say of course and listen to them for hours.


I think it's a totally fine answer and better than, sh&tty I lost another baby last week.


I’d rather they just say I lost a baby last week. At least they’re being honest. Or say I’m not doing well I’ll give you a call tomorrow to talk about it, for now let’s have fun!

The whole I’m not great, my life sux, but I won’t tell you why or ask for help is most miserable because you don’t know how to respond and it also kills the mood all night.
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2024 01:28     Subject: "How are you?" How do you respond when "fine" is a lie?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I say I'm fine but a good response is "I've seen better days" or "I'm hanging in there."


I knew someone who always said things like that and it came across as such a passive-aggressive cryptic attention grab. It always turned me off from asking further. Whereas if someone was leaving a party and said "hey can we get together next week for a walk?" I'd say of course and listen to them for hours.


I think it's a totally fine answer and better than, sh&tty I lost another baby last week.
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2024 01:06     Subject: "How are you?" How do you respond when "fine" is a lie?
Tough one, it does feel odd to lie but I say fine. You could also say it's "challenging but I'm here". That is honest but doesn't make someone uncomfortable and they are at liberty to inquire more or nod and move on to another subject
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2024 00:14     Subject: "How are you?" How do you respond when "fine" is a lie?
Anonymous wrote:I say I'm fine but a good response is "I've seen better days" or "I'm hanging in there."


I knew someone who always said things like that and it came across as such a passive-aggressive cryptic attention grab. It always turned me off from asking further. Whereas if someone was leaving a party and said "hey can we get together next week for a walk?" I'd say of course and listen to them for hours.
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2024 00:05     Subject: "How are you?" How do you respond when "fine" is a lie?
I say I'm fine but a good response is "I've seen better days" or "I'm hanging in there."
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 23:34     Subject: "How are you?" How do you respond when "fine" is a lie?
If it’s in a greeting situation, no need to get into it. If it’s a good friend but the situation isn’t appropriate, you can say something like, “I can’t wait to fill you in! Let’s get a drink soon.”
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 23:12     Subject: "How are you?" How do you respond when "fine" is a lie?
no one cares to hear your woes op. not even us here on DCUM
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 23:09     Subject: Re:"How are you?" How do you respond when "fine" is a lie?
The script goes, A: 'Hey, how have you been?' B: 'Alright, how are you?' A: 'Doing well, It's good to see you' and then you both move on. How do you not know this? There is no invitation to share your misery in what is essentially a meaningless exchange.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 23:02     Subject: "How are you?" How do you respond when "fine" is a lie?
I might say “ok” and if they ask further give them a high level description, like my mom isn’t doing great or work is driving me crazy
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 23:01     Subject: "How are you?" How do you respond when "fine" is a lie?
"Good thanks, how are you?" because a party is not the time or place to bring the mood down.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 22:58     Subject: "How are you?" How do you respond when "fine" is a lie?
How do you respond to people at a social gathering who ask "how are you?" Or "how have you been?" when the answer is "not great and I wouldn't mind taking about it but I also understand that you don't necessarily want a list of grievances at this party."

These are people who are more than acquaintances but not the closest friends mainly because we don't get to see each other that often.