If parents are contributing to the costs of the wedding, then why on earth do they need to give something on top of that?

Double strand of pearls for our future DIL. Gold watch for our future SIL.

Mine paid for our wedding.

My parents gave us $40K to go towards our wedding. DH’s parents gave us $15K. My MIL also got me a bag of fun “bride” tchotchkes to celebrate.

Anonymous wrote:And a wedding.

Precisely

Anonymous wrote:No gift, just a fat cheque

Check now cheque. What it is about elites and their need to be someone they are not?

Anonymous wrote:My 25 years old DS recently got engaged and we paid off his wife 100K student loan. We also gave them 750K for a 50% down payment on a home. That was our gift to them.

I would have waited for the president to pay off that loan

Anonymous wrote:My 25 years old DS recently got engaged and we paid off his wife 100K student loan. We also gave them 750K for a 50% down payment on a home. That was our gift to them.

Too young in these times for a male to be getting married. I hope you have money set as side for their divorce.

Never heard of this except in super rich circles. When my kids got engaged, we had a lovely BBQ to celebrate. My parents and DH's parents did the something similar as did everyone else we know.

Token gifts are often given but similar in cost to a host/hostess gift and usually related to the household.

No gift, just a fat cheque

Wife to be I meant to say.

My 25 years old DS recently got engaged and we paid off his wife 100K student loan. We also gave them 750K for a 50% down payment on a home. That was our gift to them.

And a wedding.

We threw them an engagement party.

What's customary among upper middle class?