I have a 15 year old- I am not sure it has ever gotten easier. It definitely changes but doesn’t really get easier

It became easier for me around 5 months when we had longer stretches of sleep, then around 3 years old when they could communicate a bit and I didn’t have to carry them all the time, and then at some point they become physically coordinated and you don’t have to worry as much about their physical safety. They are 8 and 10 now and I still don’t sleep enough but my sleep hasn’t been interrupted in many years. And they are now cool little people whom I can talk to. I find that much easier.

About a year before you can count on it.

For me age 1 and stopping nursing helped a lot with my first. I felt physically still not myself (dry and sore scar tissue) until I stopped nursing. Like we had fun before that sometimes but it got better then. She was also born early and just challenging (for instance wouldn’t eat because of the jaundice) at first which then exacerbated the exhaustion. I do remember being sad when I returned to work at 5 months thinking it was just getting “good”. My second was full term, born without any tearing or blood loss, and slept through the night at 6 weeks. They are now 11 and 7 (I just come to this board sometimes randomly) and the 11 year old surprisingly is a far easier child. She just kept getting easier (though has some preteen behaviors starting) where is our 7 year old is just not as calm a person.

2.5 but I had twins

I struggled a lot in the first few months, but between 5-6 months was when I hit this wonderful little sweet spot - it is when I fell in love with being a mother for the first time. I hope that is around the corner for you too!

15 months when she started going to bed easily and sleeping through the night. And way easier once she turned 2.

For me, things improved a bit between 4 and 6 months and significantly around 15 months when the sleep schedule stabilized to one nap and I weaned.

Anonymous wrote:My first was colicky for a year. Much better after that. I have a 15 and an 11 year old. There are challenges as they get older, - like driving them everywhere, trying to not tiger parent or lose your shit when they get truly atrocious grades, or spending $$$ on activities only for them to drop them all and never look back and declare nothing interests them— but nothing compares.

How/why did you decide to have another?

My first was colicky for a year. Much better after that. I have a 15 and an 11 year old. There are challenges as they get older, - like driving them everywhere, trying to not tiger parent or lose your shit when they get truly atrocious grades, or spending $$$ on activities only for them to drop them all and never look back and declare nothing interests them— but nothing compares.

They change quickly. Some stages are so hard for some parents and other ones are pure joy. Not everyone loves the newborn stage! I'm sure your baby will hit a stage soon that makes you head over heels with motherhood. Also, around 4 months, if the baby is sleeping through the night, your hormones should be pretty well regulated again so consider PPD if you still can't find any joy in the next month or two

Around 2 and then it gets hard again in middle school. Enjoy the younger years.

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When they sleep through the night. Sleep training is life saving.

I have a four month old and the sleep deprivation has gotten better but I’m dealing with distracted nursing and it’s just so hard.