is this the very first holiday you have ever "hosted"? How does this normally go?

Invite them or don't host.

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Anonymous wrote:Extending an invitation to step siblings feels like the lowest bar of decency.

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It's 6 extra people when you count spouses. I don't get my whole family invited to these things when MIL hosts. I guess I should start demanding that as well since it's the only decent thing.

You're almost as persecuted as Jesus was! Possibly even more, since you have to order a larger Honeybaked ham.

It's less about the food and more about the space. We live in a mdoest DC rowhome. Our dining room seats about 10 tops and our living room comfortably seats about 6. We already have 8 attending (plus our family of 3) without the 6 extra.

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Anonymous wrote:Extending an invitation to step siblings feels like the lowest bar of decency.

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It's 6 extra people when you count spouses. I don't get my whole family invited to these things when MIL hosts. I guess I should start demanding that as well since it's the only decent thing.

You're almost as persecuted as Jesus was! Possibly even more, since you have to order a larger Honeybaked ham.

You say she is being pushy about it. But what does that mean. She made the request and you responded no, then what?

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Anonymous wrote:Extending an invitation to step siblings feels like the lowest bar of decency.

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It's 6 extra people when you count spouses. I don't get my whole family invited to these things when MIL hosts. I guess I should start demanding that as well since it's the only decent thing.

It's not her whole extended family. It's the children of the man she is married to. You sound like a horrible person. No wonder step-siblings don't like you.

Anonymous wrote:Extending an invitation to step siblings feels like the lowest bar of decency.

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It's 6 extra people when you count spouses. I don't get my whole family invited to these things when MIL hosts. I guess I should start demanding that as well since it's the only decent thing.

Extending an invitation to step siblings feels like the lowest bar of decency.

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Anonymous wrote:How dare she expect you to include her husband's family??!!!! (I'm being sarcastic of course)

She married the man who fathered those children. Why is it so preposterous that she and he would want his children included in a holiday lunch?

She could've hosted if she wanted everyone. The step sibblings don't like each other and we don't have a lot of space. They also have a mother and other family members they could presumably spend the holiday with - I certainly don't spend every holiday with my parents.

Now I'm even more on your MIL's side. Grow up. Seriously!

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Team MIL, honestly.

Anonymous wrote:How dare she expect you to include her husband's family??!!!! (I'm being sarcastic of course)

She married the man who fathered those children. Why is it so preposterous that she and he would want his children included in a holiday lunch?

She could've hosted if she wanted everyone. The step sibblings don't like each other and we don't have a lot of space. They also have a mother and other family members they could presumably spend the holiday with - I certainly don't spend every holiday with my parents.

How dare she expect you to include her husband's family??!!!! (I'm being sarcastic of course)

She married the man who fathered those children. Why is it so preposterous that she and he would want his children included in a holiday lunch?

The answer to this depends on your husband. If he agrees with you, then stand your ground. I do understand where your MIL is coming from though, generally for holidays people want the family together instead of having to pick and choose. Next time, she should host! Then she could invite everyone without an issue!

We're hosting Easter brunch this year and MIL is being pushy about including my spouse's (adult) step sibblings. Neither my spouse nor I like the step sibblings and they don't particularly seem to like us either (so hopefully they just won't come). I just feel like if we're hosting we should be able to decide the guest list and if she doesn't like it she doesn't have to come. But we'll probably just do it anyway. Not thrilled. Mostly just venting.