I visited my parents recently and my father sat down to talk to me and offered to help me with a problem I had five years ago. I didn’t ask for his help. I just mentioned that I was working on it and it was keeping me busy. He had no memory of what he did to help. I didn’t remember it because I wasn’t there, but spouse was and told me that they did this together back then.
Mother still hasn’t admitted to anyone that I know of that he’s having significant memory lapses.
They still live independently.
I visit as often as I can but I notice his symptoms getting much more noticeable every time I visit them.
I wish she would just be honest but that’s not her way. She’s very into keeping up appearances but it’s sad.