Anonymous wrote:Give what you can afford. I would never give a 12/13 year old $100/$200!. I am Protestant and we do not expect guests to pay for their dinner or contribute to our children's college fund.

Pretty smug, there, my WASPy friend.

I hate these threads because some jerk who disdains Jews always pipes up like this, though usually without the "well Iiiiiiiiyyymmm a real WASP and that's how I can tell these uncouth Jews are so materialistic and literally ungenteel" disclaimer.

I think OP can find a lot of recent past responses with a pretty quick topic search. You will see that it changes a lot according to specific community and the degree of closeness between guest and host families. Asking again will just yield the same variety of responses from basically the same people, some well-intentioned, some intentionally inflammatory, and some perhaps cluelessly antisemitic like PPs.

No more than $50, they’re children.

Give what you can afford. I would never give a 12/13 year old $100/$200!. I am Protestant and we do not expect guests to pay for their dinner or contribute to our children's college fund.

Anonymous wrote:$54 if your kid was invited and not you, $108 if entire family was invited. Ignore the $200-$500 poster who always chimes in with outrageous amounts. It's for a 13 year old, not a wedding!

Multiples of 18s is what you do

Actually it's more meaningful than a wedding. You have to prepare a lot longer for it (there's no impromptu running to the court house option), it's in a different language than yours (except for fewer than 25%), it lasts as long as your life does.

$54 if your kid was invited and not you, $108 if entire family was invited. Ignore the $200-$500 poster who always chimes in with outrageous amounts. It's for a 13 year old, not a wedding!

Multiples of 18s is what you do

20-50 bucks, like whatever you’d give for a birthday gift for that age.

Check is fine! What we got ranged from 50-500, but mostly in the 100-200 range.

$20 cash in a card

Checks are what's expected in our circles. Anywhere from $200-500.

What is the going rate for a cash gift? Is it tacky to send a check?

I need advice!