Anonymous wrote:Your kid would drop out of the running because the school wants more information? That seems lazy.

Or smart. If they don't want her, then they "just aren't that into you" and screw them. Why should she beg them to admit her?
I say good for her, OP.

OP, I get it. DD applied to OOS flagships. She had much better admission results in one area of the country. They really showed her the love. Fast forward ~ she has settled there and is very happy.

A school that accepts 70-90+% of applicants doesn't really want you personally. You just met their very low standards.

I think this is very situational. But if she doesn't want to pursue a waitlist because she is already happy with her choices, that's valid.

My daughter had a couple yesses before she got letters from schools that wanted additional information on top of what she had already submitted. I told her it was up to her if she wanted to keep going. She chose not to - probably for the best as the 2 schools are pretty far from home anyway

I was waitlisted to my first choice college, 30 years ago. When I was ultimately accepted off the waiting list, I debated whether I wanted to go because I didn't want to be anyone's second choice. I ultimately decided to go, had a wonderful time (probably better than I would have had the other school I was planning to attend), no one cared (or knew) that I had been waitlisted, and my grades were indistinguishable from anyone else's.

Get excited about where she has been accepted, absolutely, because that's probably where she will end up. But not following through with the waiting list because she feels unwanted is dumb.

Anonymous wrote:If the school accepts you, they "want" you.

Most have multiple acceptances to evaluate.

Nothingburger unless you're a recruited athlete or something.

Eh. If they don’t make it financially feasible then they don’t really want you. They’re just hoping you have a rich grandparent somewhere.

Yes. When I was applying for college I was accepted to an Ivy and several high ranked SLACs. A lower tier SLAC gave me amazing merit support. When I opened the FA letter from Columbia and they were expecting me to go into severe debt (private loans & federal loans) I was like, “nope, clearly you didn’t even intend for me to enroll!” It was easy.

If the school accepts you, they "want" you.

Most have multiple acceptances to evaluate.

Nothingburger unless you're a recruited athlete or something.

Anonymous wrote:Your kid would drop out of the running because the school wants more information? That seems lazy.

Would your opinion change if you knew the waitlist school was lower-ranked than the merit schools? Because that’s basically what happened. OP’s kid’s personal ranking wasn’t set in stone, and it changed.

Totally agree! Hope she has a wonderful experience!

I think it’s great, OP. I agree with no need to beg. Sounds like she’s headed for a happy freshman year at a school she likes! Total win.

OP, I agree. Better to be wanted.

Anonymous wrote:Your kid would drop out of the running because the school wants more information? That seems lazy.

Yep. She did. If they didn’t accept her first round why would she keep trying? Shes already got two great schools with substantial merit offers.

Your kid would drop out of the running because the school wants more information? That seems lazy.

Anyone else love this?

My DD received some pretty good merit money from 2 schools but was waitlisted at another that was near the top of her list. The waitlist school required supplemental materials, but when my DD saw that she was like “forget that! I don’t want to go there that badly!”

I was like this too when I was applying (ages ago), and I’m glad my DD felt that way that on her own, rather than start writing letters of interest and sending supplemental info, and then still have the chance to be rejected. Seems like you’re begging a school to take you, when they don’t seem terribly interested.