I don't have experience with an above-ground pool, but in your situation I would definitely look into it. That seems to make the most sense for what you want.
Otherwise, pay a flat-fee architect now to draw the plans for the pool house. You can change your mind about the aesthetic details later: for purposes of the pool design, you need the pool house footprint and utilities layouts. This is assuming an ADU is allowed in your area and the zoning/permitting scheme is not going to change soon, which the architect should know.
Not sure if you're local to the DMV, but as someone who is here and has an in-ground pool that I didn't design: I wish mine was a regular shape (square or rectangle) so I could have a built-in automatic cover on tracks or else one of those retractable glass dome covers. Either of those features would affect where your pool house sits relative to the pool. The location of your pool utilities (pump, heater, etc.) should also be placed with pool house in mind. And the pool house should have a space for storing chemicals, equipment, and toys.
Good luck, I wish I had the money and space to design like this!