A Grandmother here. I realized recently, I likely will not be around to see them marry.

I didn't get to spend time with paternal grandparents as they were in another country and maternal grandparents were elderly and didn't have energy left to have a quality bond with me, didn't live long enough to see my younger cousins.

Anonymous wrote:Why is it always about "meeting your grandkids"?

I'd rather my children be well adjusted and have their own children when they are ready. Not when they are 22 just so I get to spend more time with them.

Nobody is asking to have kids at 22. Nowadays people start looking at 32, have few relationship failures then settle out of fear, which leads to kids after 35 and divorce by 45.

I hope I can meet my grandkids someday.

What does it matter? Theoretically, I have a good chance of meeting potential grandkids. I started having kids in my late 20s. I couldn't care less if my kids ever have kids. We've talked about it. I want them to find their purpose outside of procreating.

Plus you are not guaranteed anything in life. A good friend of mine passed away this year at age 44. He didn't even get to see his kids graduate high school.

Anonymous wrote:My Dad was 40 when he had me, I am the youngest of 3. He has 6 grandkids ranging 14-7. He's 83 and very healthy. I am holding out hope we'll bring him to my 7 year old's HS graduation, but of course nothing is guaranteed.

My dad was 29 when he had me. He's still alive, but I didn't have any kids. So age is not the only thing that matters.

My Dad was 40 when he had me, I am the youngest of 3. He has 6 grandkids ranging 14-7. He's 83 and very healthy. I am holding out hope we'll bring him to my 7 year old's HS graduation, but of course nothing is guaranteed.

Why is it always about "meeting your grandkids"?

I'd rather my children be well adjusted and have their own children when they are ready. Not when they are 22 just so I get to spend more time with them.

My parents are in their early 70's and have eight grandchildren ages 10 and under. My father has said he regrets that he may never be at one of their weddings. So first communions will have to do for now.

My parents will see my oldest graduate high school but, most likely, none of my other kids. I would have loved my life to work out differently but it didn't.

Meet them? Most. See them graduate high school? Less.

Anonymous wrote:Huh? My kids are 8, 6 and 4. My father is 75. My mother died at age 47 when I was 20.

Random anecdote, not statistically helpful.

Huh? My kids are 8, 6 and 4. My father is 75. My mother died at age 47 when I was 20.

Lots

With young people postponing marriages and parenting, how many people in their 50's or 60's can now expect to see their grandchildren before cancer or dementia catches up?