We use 2houses. It's less expensive than other options. The calendar/custodial schedule, expense sharing, and messages are the most useful features for us.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you use an app to coordinate other child care? Like with a babysitter or your MIL or Dad ?

How is that relevant?

If my childcare provider acted like my ex, I'd just fire them, so I don't need the same protections when it comes to communication.

I’m just saying with children and adult, when you treat someone poorly or stand-offish or abnormally, they act poorly. Your previous answer said it all

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you use an app to coordinate other child care? Like with a babysitter or your MIL or Dad ?

How is that relevant?

If my childcare provider acted like my ex, I'd just fire them, so I don't need the same protections when it comes to communication.

I forgot to say that was an NP.

Anonymous wrote:Would you use an app to coordinate other child care? Like with a babysitter or your MIL or Dad ?

How is that relevant?

If my childcare provider acted like my ex, I'd just fire them, so I don't need the same protections when it comes to communication.

Anonymous wrote:My take:
During divorce of a marriage or pre-divorce, accept that you are going to have about 100 terrible ideas.

Especially with children.

Your plan is to move off of your bad ideas as soon as possible. They are just one of the 100 bad ideas. You can do it!

+1.

My take:
During divorce of a marriage or pre-divorce, accept that you are going to have about 100 terrible ideas.

Especially with children.

Your plan is to move off of your bad ideas as soon as possible. They are just one of the 100 bad ideas. You can do it!

Would you use an app to coordinate other child care? Like with a babysitter or your MIL or Dad ?

Anonymous wrote:My ex can get pretty nasty. I am using the BestInterest app and it filters his messages for me. Plus I didn't need to get his agreement to use it.

I can teach you behavioral tips to filter the emotion out of written language. You can desensitize yourself by diagraming the sentence for instance.

Sentence Diagraming looks like this : Spotting and naming what you see. The is a personal slight; that is a negative adjective or noun; that is an attempt to appeal at emotion; that is a purposeful mischaracterization of what happened or my intent. That is a is a purposeful incorrect content.

You will start to spot words he repeats (always, uncooperative, whatever)


Use funny accents when you read texts. Put him on snooze (don’t read right away). Answer what you want and don’t answer everything or every point he makes. Never point out his flaws or his mistakes. Always move the ball forward.

For a while, I would treat Father like a coworker or supervisor. Someone who I had to work with to get paid.

I got everything I wanted at the end!

It’s a counter strategy you have to learn and tailor yourself.

Apps are glitchy and create triple the work. Another communication vessel to manage. Picture having a different phone with a different phone # to juggle everyday.
Unless your ex is seriously threatening, that would get him/her in trouble with the police, then it’s useless and the courts don’t care

I used a google doc. With a table. And dates
and we color coded our entries and request

We were forced to work together. AI can help you write if needed

I learned 501 ways to desensitize myself from
my cruel (cruelty tailored to me) ex. That worked the best

Some times I would read his emails (everyone! in the accent of Queen Elizabeth. Stuff like that!

It look a LOT of work and reading on my part

My ex can get pretty nasty. I am using the BestInterest app and it filters his messages for me. Plus I didn't need to get his agreement to use it.

Ridiculous people and their nonsense.

Talking Parents has worked well for me. I simply suggested it and my ex agreed. I like having everything in one place and have a view time stamp. It's also great for court! I have no downsides to it.

Do you use a coparenting app? Which one? Why did you choose it? How did you convince your coparent to use one? What are the downsides to using coparenting apps?