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Anonymous wrote:Kid ended up in tears at the school we were leaning toward because he didn’t like the vibe.

Ended up getting in elsewhere off the waitlist and it’s been a perfect fit.

Similar thing happened with my kid. We went back to the accepted students night and they had us go around to the classrooms and briefly chat with teachers. When my daughter said she loved Spanish, the Spanish teacher said, "OH...it's only once a week here - and the language program isn't very good."

As soon as we got in the car she started to cry. Luckily, she got off the waitlist for her first choice and we didn't have to consider that school any further

Definitely glad you discovered this before your daughter actually committed to the school but also uncertain how you made it to that point without knowing how often classes met.

DC enjoyed all their shadow days but we learned more from admitted family events.

At one school, people of our same race seemed to go almost out of their way to avoid us and other people of the same race as if they did not want to be seen as too non-white. If you are not white you probably know how strange this is. At DC's K-8 people would make an effort to do the opposite and reach out just to make sure we did not feel alone.

Another year for another DC we met some parents who were very forthcoming about the school and some issues. It had been DC's top choice but we crossed it off our list.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kid ended up in tears at the school we were leaning toward because he didn’t like the vibe.

Ended up getting in elsewhere off the waitlist and it’s been a perfect fit.

Similar thing happened with my kid. We went back to the accepted students night and they had us go around to the classrooms and briefly chat with teachers. When my daughter said she loved Spanish, the Spanish teacher said, "OH...it's only once a week here - and the language program isn't very good."

As soon as we got in the car she started to cry. Luckily, she got off the waitlist for her first choice and we didn't have to consider that school any further

Did you give this feedback to the admissions team? I’d be so pissed. As someone who does it for my school we spend a lot of time hemming and hawing over who to admit and one person just pissed it away.

This comment is confusing. Are you suggesting teachers and admitted students event representatives lie to get admitted students to accept regardless of whether the student would be happy there? Admissions serves the school, not vice versa.

Yes. It’s a business and businesses lie to get revenue.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kid ended up in tears at the school we were leaning toward because he didn’t like the vibe.

Ended up getting in elsewhere off the waitlist and it’s been a perfect fit.

Similar thing happened with my kid. We went back to the accepted students night and they had us go around to the classrooms and briefly chat with teachers. When my daughter said she loved Spanish, the Spanish teacher said, "OH...it's only once a week here - and the language program isn't very good."

As soon as we got in the car she started to cry. Luckily, she got off the waitlist for her first choice and we didn't have to consider that school any further

Did you give this feedback to the admissions team? I’d be so pissed. As someone who does it for my school we spend a lot of time hemming and hawing over who to admit and one person just pissed it away.

This comment is confusing. Are you suggesting teachers and admitted students event representatives lie to get admitted students to accept regardless of whether the student would be happy there? Admissions serves the school, not vice versa.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kid ended up in tears at the school we were leaning toward because he didn’t like the vibe.

Ended up getting in elsewhere off the waitlist and it’s been a perfect fit.

Similar thing happened with my kid. We went back to the accepted students night and they had us go around to the classrooms and briefly chat with teachers. When my daughter said she loved Spanish, the Spanish teacher said, "OH...it's only once a week here - and the language program isn't very good."

As soon as we got in the car she started to cry. Luckily, she got off the waitlist for her first choice and we didn't have to consider that school any further

Did you give this feedback to the admissions team? I’d be so pissed. As someone who does it for my school we spend a lot of time hemming and hawing over who to admit and one person just pissed it away.

Sounds like the Spanish teacher was telling the truth.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kid ended up in tears at the school we were leaning toward because he didn’t like the vibe.

Ended up getting in elsewhere off the waitlist and it’s been a perfect fit.

Similar thing happened with my kid. We went back to the accepted students night and they had us go around to the classrooms and briefly chat with teachers. When my daughter said she loved Spanish, the Spanish teacher said, "OH...it's only once a week here - and the language program isn't very good."

As soon as we got in the car she started to cry. Luckily, she got off the waitlist for her first choice and we didn't have to consider that school any further

What school only has foreign language once a week? I'd like to know so I can avoid it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kid ended up in tears at the school we were leaning toward because he didn’t like the vibe.

Ended up getting in elsewhere off the waitlist and it’s been a perfect fit.

Similar thing happened with my kid. We went back to the accepted students night and they had us go around to the classrooms and briefly chat with teachers. When my daughter said she loved Spanish, the Spanish teacher said, "OH...it's only once a week here - and the language program isn't very good."

As soon as we got in the car she started to cry. Luckily, she got off the waitlist for her first choice and we didn't have to consider that school any further

Did you give this feedback to the admissions team? I’d be so pissed. As someone who does it for my school we spend a lot of time hemming and hawing over who to admit and one person just pissed it away.

If the Spanish teacher is telling the truth, I wouldn’t tell the admissions team. It’s better students know and be saved from the experience

Anonymous wrote:DD met 2 people who are now her best friends at accepted students day

What school?

DD met 2 people who are now her best friends at accepted students day

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kid ended up in tears at the school we were leaning toward because he didn’t like the vibe.

Ended up getting in elsewhere off the waitlist and it’s been a perfect fit.

Similar thing happened with my kid. We went back to the accepted students night and they had us go around to the classrooms and briefly chat with teachers. When my daughter said she loved Spanish, the Spanish teacher said, "OH...it's only once a week here - and the language program isn't very good."

As soon as we got in the car she started to cry. Luckily, she got off the waitlist for her first choice and we didn't have to consider that school any further

Did you give this feedback to the admissions team? I’d be so pissed. As someone who does it for my school we spend a lot of time hemming and hawing over who to admit and one person just pissed it away.

Anonymous wrote:Kid ended up in tears at the school we were leaning toward because he didn’t like the vibe.

Ended up getting in elsewhere off the waitlist and it’s been a perfect fit.

Similar thing happened with my kid. We went back to the accepted students night and they had us go around to the classrooms and briefly chat with teachers. When my daughter said she loved Spanish, the Spanish teacher said, "OH...it's only once a week here - and the language program isn't very good."

As soon as we got in the car she started to cry. Luckily, she got off the waitlist for her first choice and we didn't have to consider that school any further

We (both parents and kid) were torn between two schools through the whole process, and DC was admitted to both. DC leaned slightly one way and we parents leaned slightly the other. We all used the events in the two weeks after admission to really parse the differences between the two schools, and in the end all of us were on the same page about which school to go with. The events were very helpful for that.

Anonymous wrote:Did anything ever happen that made you completely write off a school you previously thought you liked?

My older DC learned a lot from shadow days. They learned the most about schools that they could visit in Fall and again after admissions (The one school that didn't allow a visit in the Fall had a hard time competing because DC still had too many questions after only one Spring visit).

Current DC was only able to shadow at two schools in the Fall. They like two other schools more, that they haven't shadowed at, and says they would need to shadow at both if it turns out they have to choose between them.

I also learned a lot at admitted family events.

Kid ended up in tears at the school we were leaning toward because he didn’t like the vibe.

Ended up getting in elsewhere off the waitlist and it’s been a perfect fit.

Did anything ever happen that made you completely write off a school you previously thought you liked?