Anonymous wrote:It's never an issue with my thin hot gf who is 30 years younger than me.

Super helpful!

OP

If he wakes up hard and can masturbate just fine but cannot maintain an erection with you then it’s a psychological and could be fixed with some work on the relationship.

If he doesn’t wake up with erections most mornings and has no desire to masturbate it’s probably hormonal.

If he wakes up soft and cannot get an erection to masturbate or cannot sustain one long enough to have an orgasm on his own then it’s physical and he should go straight to a doctor.

It's never an issue with my thin hot gf who is 30 years younger than me.

With my husband I know that if I’m not really into it he can have a problem. The solution has been agreeing in the morning that we will have fun that night and that gives me the chance to get get psyched up. When my mind is in the right place my body really follows. If I’m “energetic” he never has a problem.

OP here. He could get hard on his own but not with me. He has a new girlfriend and I can’t help wondering if it’s different with her. I 100% know this is my own insecurity talking.

I only have one partner and it happens if I’ve had a little too much to drink. Eventually I can get it up but I can’t sustain it for very long. So the nights when sex is a high probability I don’t drink or I just have a little. When I do that I can quickly get aroused and I know things will be fine. I’m in my 60s and I’ve never taken ED meds.

It’s not you if that’s what you’re really asking

Happened to spouse in early 60s - get the little blue pill (generic is fine), makes things back to the way it used to be

It's all, don't blame your partner.

I think often a more sexy partner would make ED less of an issue and a less sexy partner would make it more of an issue, but that's only part of the story. Very individual.

I asked the same question a month ago! People flamed me. I struggle sometimes with my current GF but I didn't have any problems in recent relationships with younger women. Even now I can get aroused just talking on the phone with some other women.

Psychologically based? Only some.

Physically based? Same for every woman.

DH cannot perform if he is stressed or tired. He also developed ED from watching too much porn. Now he no longer uses porn and has to “save it” for me. He is 44.

Depends on the cause.

Old age, psychological, or physiological problem - all partners.

Guys who’ve dealt with this - does it happen with certain partners or with all partners?