Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women just complain more than men do. Men mostly internalize, where many/most women feel free to express their every thought, especially on an anonymous board.

I say this as a woman who loves to talk about my feelings. It's ridiculous, but there you have it.

Men don't internalize anything, they discard issues or emotions and sweep them under the rug. Someone else can deal with them.

Or they start acting out- cheating, substance abuse, or just full on anger and raging.

Anonymous wrote:This site is literally called DCUM. I’m sure a site called DCUD would have more complaints about women.

Wrong: it is actually called DCUMAD, with “AD” literally meaning: AND DADS.

What’s rarely said or openly acknowledged is: this site is 98% women. You were right in that respect, I guess.

Anonymous wrote:Women just complain more than men do. Men mostly internalize, where many/most women feel free to express their every thought, especially on an anonymous board.

I say this as a woman who loves to talk about my feelings. It's ridiculous, but there you have it.

Men don't internalize anything, they discard issues or emotions and sweep them under the rug. Someone else can deal with them.

When we first got together, I complained more than my DH did. But he was prone to periodic angry outbursts, sometimes about the weirdest and most inane things. Like I remember once he flipped out because I was driving and looking for a parking space and he told me to turn left to find one and I chose to turn right. I remember when we debriefed that fight, I pointed out how he was normally so even keel and that had just come out of nowhere.

We've been together for 15 years and he now complains a lot more than he used to. But he doesn't have angry outbursts, or if he does get upset about something, it's flows more naturally from something where it makes sense.

I think a lot of men are conditioned not to complain, because they think it's unmasculine or they think they have some stoic duty to endure. I also think men develop fewer communication skills generally, and that makes it harder for them to complain about things or discuss frustrations or other negative emotions, because they often just do not have the vocabulary for those conversations. But these are all learned skills. It's just that women often start learning them at a very young age, and some men get to adulthood without acquiring him. So it takes longer for them to learn how to "complain" without randomly blowing up, or in a way that might lead to a peaceful resolution. My DH has gotten great at it though, and now he will tell me, calmly, about stuff in our marriage or in me specifically that is making life harder for him or that feels unequal. And we can talk it through and address it.

But early on, before he had those skills, I do think he probably felt like I "complained" a lot and he never did. Now I think he gets that complaining might just be really negative word to describe a healthy behavior.

Anonymous wrote:Is it that men are less unhappy? That they just have different outlets? Or perhaps they don’t express their unhappiness and/or are fine with status quo.

r u including ManChild in your definition of "men"?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men are pretty simple, women are not. Emotions and feelings pour out of women but not out of men.

Only if you exclude anger as an emotion.

+1000

This site is literally called DCUM. I’m sure a site called DCUD would have more complaints about women.

Anonymous wrote:Men are pretty simple, women are not. Emotions and feelings pour out of women but not out of men.

Only if you exclude anger as an emotion.

Women just complain more than men do. Men mostly internalize, where many/most women feel free to express their every thought, especially on an anonymous board.

I say this as a woman who loves to talk about my feelings. It's ridiculous, but there you have it.

Anonymous wrote:Because most of the people on this site are women, and most people are heterosexual.

This.
It’s a parenting forum. Women are generally the primary caregivers or at least the ones who are more anxious about the kids.

If you head over to Reddit, you can find lots of complaints about women.

Because most of the people on this site are women, and most people are heterosexual.

Because women always find something to complain about and blame all their problems on men.

Why else do you think lesbians have the highest divorce rate out of any type of couple while gay men have the lowest

Men are pretty simple, women are not. Emotions and feelings pour out of women but not out of men.

because men don't overthink or really care too much about the stuff that bothers women. We should try to be more like men.

Is it that men are less unhappy? That they just have different outlets? Or perhaps they don’t express their unhappiness and/or are fine with status quo.