I'd leave her too. That's not like "Whoops, sorry I tripped, slipped and accidentally fell on his d**K. Sorry, guess it's just not my day."

She made a decision to drink (of COURSE alcohol was involved in her poor decision making), and made a decision to kiss, to lie and say she was getting divorced, to make out, to invite the guy to her hotel, etc. At any point she could have stopped things and said "Sorry, I'm married."

Well, now she gets to REALLY get divorced.

Girls' trips always result in a mess. Y'all need to watch more Real Housewives if you don't know that. The more you know.

Real adults don't have "girls trips" or "guy trips". Grow the hell up.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men have a very hard time forgiving sexual infidelity. It’s deep in the lizard brain.

She was stupid to tell him about it.

Wait - what??!? You think she should not have told him??

DP, but yes. Don't compound what you believe to be a one-time mistake (according to her) with more pain and hurt for your spouse.
It's a lifelong regret she should have kept to herself.

The MIL is acting the most mature of the three.

I’m not understanding what is “amazing” about this.

Girls trips, boys trips. Yuck. Stupid. We always went with couple friends, no segregation. My parents were similar--trips with good friends (both partners).

Anonymous wrote:i am from the UK and the biggest red flag to me here is that she went on a girls trip to BUTLINS.

That's like going on a girls trip to a WAWA.

the poor judgement started way before the infidelity.

Butlins is literally the equivalent of a gas station / convenience store? Sounds like the worst girls' trip ever.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men have a very hard time forgiving sexual infidelity. It’s deep in the lizard brain.

She was stupid to tell him about it.

Wait - what??!? You think she should not have told him??

She should have not cheated, but that ship has sailed.

Anonymous wrote:Men have a very hard time forgiving sexual infidelity. It’s deep in the lizard brain.

She was stupid to tell him about it.

Wait - what??!? You think she should not have told him??

Men have a very hard time forgiving sexual infidelity. It’s deep in the lizard brain.

She was stupid to tell him about it.

They’ve been together for 14 years. She’s 33 and he’s 39. I think he’s sus to begin with for latching on to a 19 year old when he’s in his mid 20s.

But yeah. If you can’t move past it, then you can’t move past it.

Reddit tends to be more pro-divorce, anti-second chances. So not surprised.

I won't pontificate on what's best for him, but I will say that this is the typical reaction for a husband whose wife has a ONS. They are much, much less likely to work through things and I think a wife would rarely divorce in a situation like this.

What he’s doing wrong is asking if he should leave and wondering if he should leave. No. He should already be gone.

i am from the UK and the biggest red flag to me here is that she went on a girls trip to BUTLINS.

That's like going on a girls trip to a WAWA.

the poor judgement started way before the infidelity.

This is amazing:

https://www.foxnews.com/lifestyle/cheating-wife-will-not-get-another-chance-man-writes-viral-post-leave-her.amp

Wife is 33; DH is 39.

They have been together for 14 year and married for 10.

She went on a “girls trip” which ended badly. For him. They have a 7 year old daughter.

Are you surprised by all the responses he got ? Is he doing the right thing here?