Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 11:25     Subject: How do you deal with family criticism?
“Thanks for the input” or “Your opinion is duly noted” works if you want to neutralize and move on.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 11:25     Subject: How do you deal with family criticism?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:"Our child is thrilled so we are thrilled. End of discussion."


+1 or, if you want to share your enthusiasm for the particular things that made your kid pick that school. DD goes to a LAC lots haven't heard of but they have a really unique program she loves for her major which I am happy to tell people about if I get a "why?" question (even if the why is not meant sincerely!)


Sounds like a waste of time to enlighten the willfully ignorant. A fool's errand, as my grandmother would have said.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 11:25     Subject: How do you deal with family criticism?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Posts like these are why I have no friends. Who needs friends making these types of horrible comments?


Many of them are family. And I think the friends in particular are speaking out of ignorance, so I'm trying to give them some grace.


Ignorance is not an excuse for rudeness.


You're right, I'm sorry.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 11:24     Subject: How do you deal with family criticism?
Anonymous wrote:"Our child is thrilled so we are thrilled. End of discussion."


+1

Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 11:24     Subject: How do you deal with family criticism?
Anonymous wrote:"Our child is thrilled so we are thrilled. End of discussion."


+1 or, if you want to share your enthusiasm for the particular things that made your kid pick that school. DD goes to a LAC lots haven't heard of but they have a really unique program she loves for her major which I am happy to tell people about if I get a "why?" question (even if the why is not meant sincerely!)
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 11:24     Subject: How do you deal with family criticism?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Posts like these are why I have no friends. Who needs friends making these types of horrible comments?


Many of them are family. And I think the friends in particular are speaking out of ignorance, so I'm trying to give them some grace.


Ignorance is not an excuse for rudeness.


x1000000. Preach.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 11:23     Subject: How do you deal with family criticism?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Posts like these are why I have no friends. Who needs friends making these types of horrible comments?


Many of them are family. And I think the friends in particular are speaking out of ignorance, so I'm trying to give them some grace.


Ignorance is not an excuse for rudeness.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 11:22     Subject: How do you deal with family criticism?
"Our child is thrilled so we are thrilled. End of discussion."
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 11:22     Subject: How do you deal with family criticism?
Anonymous wrote:Posts like these are why I have no friends. Who needs friends making these types of horrible comments?


Many of them are family. And I think the friends in particular are speaking out of ignorance, so I'm trying to give them some grace.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 11:16     Subject: How do you deal with family criticism?
Posts like these are why I have no friends. Who needs friends making these types of horrible comments?
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 11:15     Subject: How do you deal with family criticism?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DC's top choice college was a "lessor" school in a particular group - think Cornell vs. Harvard or Connecticut College vs. Amherst, or Nebraska vs. Northwestern, something like that. They were accepted and are THRILLED beyond words, but more than one family member and friend has said some really nasty things to us about the acceptance. We're incredibly proud and trying to gracefully deflect the comments, but people are digging in their heels and saying the equivalent of, "Well, what about Harvard? It's not too late to apply, you know."

Could use some specific wording here. "This school is perfect for them, and we're very proud of their achievement" isn't shutting them down.


Shrug. Say, "Good point. Talk to DC". Shrug again. Indifference is better than defensiveness, which is what you were going for.


I don't want them taking their crap to DC. But you're right, indifference is better. It's just we're so happy for them.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 11:11     Subject: How do you deal with family criticism?
Anonymous wrote:DC's top choice college was a "lessor" school in a particular group - think Cornell vs. Harvard or Connecticut College vs. Amherst, or Nebraska vs. Northwestern, something like that. They were accepted and are THRILLED beyond words, but more than one family member and friend has said some really nasty things to us about the acceptance. We're incredibly proud and trying to gracefully deflect the comments, but people are digging in their heels and saying the equivalent of, "Well, what about Harvard? It's not too late to apply, you know."

Could use some specific wording here. "This school is perfect for them, and we're very proud of their achievement" isn't shutting them down.


Shrug. Say, "Good point. Talk to DC". Shrug again. Indifference is better than defensiveness, which is what you were going for.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 11:10     Subject: How do you deal with family criticism?
"This topic isn't open for your input. If you don't have anything kind to say, I'm done with this conversation".

Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 11:08     Subject: How do you deal with family criticism?
Anonymous wrote:Who cares?


Move on if you're not interested in a thread.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 11:04     Subject: How do you deal with family criticism?
DC's top choice college was a "lessor" school in a particular group - think Cornell vs. Harvard or Connecticut College vs. Amherst, or Nebraska vs. Northwestern, something like that. They were accepted and are THRILLED beyond words, but more than one family member and friend has said some really nasty things to us about the acceptance. We're incredibly proud and trying to gracefully deflect the comments, but people are digging in their heels and saying the equivalent of, "Well, what about Harvard? It's not too late to apply, you know."

Could use some specific wording here. "This school is perfect for them, and we're very proud of their achievement" isn't shutting them down.