If it's not for a medical reason, I would divorce. Kids will learn more about the truth in the future. Too much bitterness and resentment comes from a sexless marriage.

People are so gross.

Every single one of you wanked off for years before you had a vagina or a penis to play with.

If you really love your spouse and the family you've built together, you'll take care of yourself and stay invested in your family/spouse.

Anything else is narcissism.

With the ManChild, yes.

Anonymous wrote:If you are in a sexless or near sexless marriage?

My parents have been in a sexless marriage for at least 25 years because my dad had colon cancer around the age I am now and the surgery made him impotent. I’d be sad but I wouldn’t leave DH if that happened to him. I hope he’d say the same but I don’t think equipment issues for women are given the same consideration as equipment issues for men. There are of course other ways to be intimate than PIV, but that’s our preference.

We had sex 1-3 times a week (4-12 times a month) 18 years into marriage and my spouse thought it was sexless and had an affair.

People’s idea of “sexless” varies wildly and some really mean they just want some variety/new excitement supplementation. They run into problems when they hookup with another married person who sees the affair as an exit and thinks it’s mutual.

We had zero sex for 7 YEARS out of 10. Got divorced. It was a bad marriage and a mistake from the start.

Sex twice a month is not sexless, by the way.

Less then 10 times a year is considered sexless.

ZERO sex is actually sexless.

I’m the reason my marriage is sexless (not attracted for various reasons) and I am not divorcing because we have kids and it’s not worth it. I wouldn’t blame him if he wanted a divorce though, but I am not asking for one unless things became abusive or he voted for Trump.

this is an interesting post and one I feel my DH could write. "Sexless" to him = 2 or 3 times/month.

He wants 3 times/week.

I'm not into him anymore. We have 2 kids (teens) and he's cheated. I'm sticking it out for the kids but have zero attraction. he can take care of himself in other ways.

This is a stupid reason to destroy your family. Figure out some compromise or take care of yourself in other ways.

Actually sexless?

Or sex 1-2 times per month or something and you are unhappy with that and calling it sexless?

Anonymous wrote:Totally depends on why it’s sexless and what came before. If it’s a medical issue, never.

Good point.

The WHY is the underlying issue, the sexless part is the outcome of it.

That’s the only issue and there were kids to raise, would not divorce.

If there was abuse or addictions or total resentment, I’d divorce once kids graduated HS or earlier, esp if the former.

Talk about it and figure it out. Good luck.

Totally depends on why it’s sexless and what came before. If it’s a medical issue, never.

If you are in a sexless or near sexless marriage?