Anonymous
Post 02/12/2024 10:01     Subject: BIL doesn’t even bring his nieces and nephews gifts
Caring does not equal gifts.

Grow up.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2024 10:00     Subject: BIL doesn’t even bring his nieces and nephews gifts
Anonymous wrote:Does he play and interact with the kids? For many people, gifts are not their love language.



I don’t think he really cares for the kids. He only cares about DH and probably thinks the wife and kids have taken his brother’s time away from him.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2024 09:56     Subject: BIL doesn’t even bring his nieces and nephews gifts
Does he play and interact with the kids? For many people, gifts are not their love language.

Anonymous
Post 02/12/2024 09:55     Subject: BIL doesn’t even bring his nieces and nephews gifts
Anonymous wrote:Text him today and tell him in no uncertain terms that he must pay to play. He'll get the message loud & clear, OP.


I’m not sure if he knows or cares.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2024 09:55     Subject: BIL doesn’t even bring his nieces and nephews gifts
Lots of single aunts/uncles do not bring gifts.

This is so damn petty.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2024 09:54     Subject: BIL doesn’t even bring his nieces and nephews gifts
Text him today and tell him in no uncertain terms that he must pay to play. He'll get the message loud & clear, OP.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2024 09:42     Subject: BIL doesn’t even bring his nieces and nephews gifts
Anonymous wrote:Did your spouse tell him to just come over and don’t worry about bringing anything?

You say “my child’s birthday” instead of our child’s birthday. Is the uncle biologically related to the child?

Is the child a year old? Lots of single people have no idea what to get a one year old.


The kids are in elementary. It was a birthday party. Yes, he is biologically related. He is my husband’s brother.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2024 09:39     Subject: BIL doesn’t even bring his nieces and nephews gifts
Did your spouse tell him to just come over and don’t worry about bringing anything?

You say “my child’s birthday” instead of our child’s birthday. Is the uncle biologically related to the child?

Is the child a year old? Lots of single people have no idea what to get a one year old.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2024 09:35     Subject: BIL doesn’t even bring his nieces and nephews gifts
We have a no gifts policy.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2024 09:34     Subject: BIL doesn’t even bring his nieces and nephews gifts
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:BIL is single and successful. We invited him over for my child’s birthday and he didn’t even bring a gift. At the entire party, he was the only one not to bring a gift and he earns the most money.

Do your kids uncles and aunts buy them gifts?

I don’t think he needs to send a gift but if he is coming to a birthday party, he could have brought one.


It is really annoying when siblings with kids pocket watch their single siblings. We are not a convenient instant bank.


This isn’t really about money, more about thoughtfulness. I guess he doesn’t give adult friends gifts and he doesn’t think to bring a gift for his niece or nephew at a birthday party.

My brother is also single and clueless but he knows to bring a birthday gift to a kid birthday party.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2024 09:28     Subject: BIL doesn’t even bring his nieces and nephews gifts
Because he's socially clueless, that's why. Which might explain why he's single. If he gets married, his wife might remind him, and if they have kids, he might get a clue himself. Or not!
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2024 09:27     Subject: BIL doesn’t even bring his nieces and nephews gifts
Anonymous wrote:BIL is single and successful. We invited him over for my child’s birthday and he didn’t even bring a gift. At the entire party, he was the only one not to bring a gift and he earns the most money.

Do your kids uncles and aunts buy them gifts?

I don’t think he needs to send a gift but if he is coming to a birthday party, he could have brought one.


It is really annoying when siblings with kids pocket watch their single siblings. We are not a convenient instant bank.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2024 09:25     Subject: BIL doesn’t even bring his nieces and nephews gifts
Anonymous wrote:BIL is single and successful. We invited him over for my child’s birthday and he didn’t even bring a gift. At the entire party, he was the only one not to bring a gift and he earns the most money.

Do your kids uncles and aunts buy them gifts?

I don’t think he needs to send a gift but if he is coming to a birthday party, he could have brought one.


You emphasize "his" nieces and nephews but they are "your" kids. You decided to have them, didn't consult with him first, he is not a partner in raising your kids. Anything he does for them is a nice to have, not a requirement.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2024 09:24     Subject: BIL doesn’t even bring his nieces and nephews gifts
Your BIL is a self centered douche.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2024 09:22     Subject: BIL doesn’t even bring his nieces and nephews gifts
BIL is single and successful. We invited him over for my child’s birthday and he didn’t even bring a gift. At the entire party, he was the only one not to bring a gift and he earns the most money.

Do your kids uncles and aunts buy them gifts?

I don’t think he needs to send a gift but if he is coming to a birthday party, he could have brought one.