Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 11:10     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
I say, "That's funny, I don't remember asking for your opinion."
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 11:09     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
If I don’t know that I want to take someone’s advice I usually say: I hear you and I will take it under consideration.

What is the issue? Why does the person do this and why do you hang out with them?
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 11:09     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
Anonymous wrote:I like "Thats not a very nice thing to say"


I said this, and the reply was, "I'm not very nice."
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 11:07     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
and don't be here to listen to an explanation of "how they were just being honest" or "you're too sensitive"
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 11:06     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
Thanks, PP’s.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 11:06     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
"That's rude"
-say nothing after that. You do not want to state a question.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 10:54     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
I like "Thats not a very nice thing to say"
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 10:53     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Carry around a Yellow Card. Flash it when this happens. On it, it says "Is it True? Is it Necessary? Is it Kind?"


They aren't first graders.

Op try "I'll thank you now not to be so rude. Got it? Good. Now, how about the weather/those Chiefs/ Aunt Greta's boil?...." Anything to change the subject.

I think pp was being sarcastic.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 10:49     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
In my home? “Thanks for stopping by, here’s your coat “.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 10:45     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
"Why would you enter my home and accept my hospitality, then say something so rude and unnecessary?"
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 10:31     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
"I really like my house and am not interested in your criticism."

I would address it head on.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 10:24     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
I'd just look surprised and say, that's unkind, wow. And turn and leave the room.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 10:23     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
Anonymous wrote:Carry around a Yellow Card. Flash it when this happens. On it, it says "Is it True? Is it Necessary? Is it Kind?"


They aren't first graders.

Op try "I'll thank you now not to be so rude. Got it? Good. Now, how about the weather/those Chiefs/ Aunt Greta's boil?...." Anything to change the subject.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 10:15     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
Carry around a Yellow Card. Flash it when this happens. On it, it says "Is it True? Is it Necessary? Is it Kind?"
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 10:14     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
For instance, if a relative comes into your home and starts criticizing how you look or how you are dressed, what is a way to shut them down?

I’ve thought about “that’s so rude. Why would you say that?” But I don’t want to invite a conversation. I just want it to stop.

So “that’s rude.” Full stop. What else?