Agree with the poster who is sick of these whining parent posts. Teach typing child to be resilient and to not to prescribe to thoughts of there being a perfect school. That's absurd. To teach your child that they will be fine and you get them excited about the options they do have.

Move on to the 2nd best dream school.

My DD got rejected from her dream school summer before senior year during the athletic recruiting process. It was completely unexpected and a very long, sad summer. She was able to commit to a very high academic D1 school that had told her she had a spot if she wanted earlier in her junior year. But she was unhappy about that most of her senior year, honestly. On the outside, she faked it to the world, announcing her commitment and wearing the gear. But when the first classmate got into her dream school at ED, that was rough. Then another at RD. To be honest, she just never really got over it. She's crushing it her first year at this second-choice school, academically and athletically, has made great friends and is having a lot of fun. But, she is throwing in an application to transfer to the dream school for the heck of it. I think whether she gets in or not, she'll stay put and this can finally put it behind her. But OP, despite everybody here saying you just get excited and move on, it's just not always the case. I am very proud of my DD for doing her best to fake the enthusiasm, but for those who truly fall in love with a place, especially one that seems to be in reach and the right fit in every way, it's tough. Sorry I don't have advice, just sharing our experience.

I believe teens deep down are still looking to us and still want our approval. So show them in every way that you are not disappointed, that they did amazingly well, and that you love the options they have. Remind them they can be as or more successful where they land. Nothing is determined.

To do this well, you have to sincerely feel that way yourself. Our Instagram society is constantly pushing the wrong message in terms of prestige, but we need to be better and wiser for our children’s sake.

Ice cream
Dorm shopping
Visit other schools when ready
Enjoy senior year
Get off college instagrams

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Anonymous wrote:I am sick of these posts…there are gobs of them if you search DCUM.

There is no perfect school so it was all a lie anyway. You should never have let your kid think this way which is your fault.

Tell them life is hard, give them a couple of days to grieve then have them focus on all the great things about the schools they were accepted.

How do you know OP did her kid thing that way? As a parent, you encourage your kids to work hard school get good grades and work hard to get to a good college. The problem is your kid who has done all that didn't get accepted, while others do. The kids have to think of some college to go to and work towards that but still not accepted. That is not easy to deal as a parent and OP is just trying to find out from others.

Well…if my kid said their dream school is X, I would quickly tell my kid there is no such thing as a dream school. How hard is that?

For literally every school that looks like X there are dozens of equivalents.

Sounds like OP is pet of the problem. There is no “dream school,” OP. Be the adult and help your child focus on the positives of the schools where they weee accepted.

First thing is to not have a “dream school”.

You can either wallow and be miserable, or make the best of it.

My DC didn't get into their dream school. Most friends of their caliber or lower stats went off to "better" schools.

DC is now in flagship and will be graduating in 3 years with a double major, and plans on doing a +1 year masters. All under $120k (got merit). DC will have funds leftover in their 529. We'll probably give them the difference and a car. They are pretty stoked about that.

Some of their friends have more money than us, so those friends don't ever have to worry about money. Not so for us.

DC has a chance to transfer to a higher rated school but decided not to because it would interfere with their 3+1 plan. So, they found the positive of being where they are. That's what you have to do.

Anonymous wrote:I am sick of these posts…there are gobs of them if you search DCUM.

There is no perfect school so it was all a lie anyway. You should never have let your kid think this way which is your fault.

Tell them life is hard, give them a couple of days to grieve then have them focus on all the great things about the schools they were accepted.

How do you know OP did her kid thing that way? As a parent, you encourage your kids to work hard school get good grades and work hard to get to a good college. The problem is your kid who has done all that didn't get accepted, while others do. The kids have to think of some college to go to and work towards that but still not accepted. That is not easy to deal as a parent and OP is just trying to find out from others.

You don’t always get what you want in life and that’s okay - move on.

Did your student get into his/her 2nd choice? If so, you get excited about that.
Visit, especially at an admitted student day.
Is their basketball team doing well? Go to a game and watch the student section cheer (at schools with a good student section, it's even more fun watching them than the game!)

Anonymous wrote:I am sick of these posts…there are gobs of them if you search DCUM.

There is no perfect school so it was all a lie anyway. You should never have let your kid think this way which is your fault.

Tell them life is hard, give them a couple of days to grieve then have them focus on all the great things about the schools they were accepted.

If you’re so sick of something just move on to the next. No need to crap all over a parent dealing with a real problem.

I am sick of these posts…there are gobs of them if you search DCUM.

There is no perfect school so it was all a lie anyway. You should never have let your kid think this way which is your fault.

Tell them life is hard, give them a couple of days to grieve then have them focus on all the great things about the schools they were accepted.

That was perfect in all regards. When multiple friends got in and will go.