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Anonymous wrote:The world does not revolve around you.

They probably didn’t even notice you.

Thanks for the kind words. My dead 15 week baby also thanks you.

I'm sorry for your loss but this is correct. I doubt they decided to knit baby clothes just to make you feel bad. That is what they were working on probably for their own baby. It had nothing to do with you.

So you would knit baby clothes in front of the crying couple?

Yes, OP, many of us would.

I would not and any of my friends would think that it was appallingly insensitive. I am so sorry. Choosing not to knit for 15 minutes hardly amounts to "putting your life on hold."

I think you have a lot of anger at the situation and also jealousy. All of it is very understandable, but this person was not trying to hurt you and could not have known what was going on. I’m sorry for your loss.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The world does not revolve around you.

They probably didn’t even notice you.

Thanks for the kind words. My dead 15 week baby also thanks you.

I'm sorry for your loss but this is correct. I doubt they decided to knit baby clothes just to make you feel bad. That is what they were working on probably for their own baby. It had nothing to do with you.

So you would knit baby clothes in front of the crying couple?

Yes, OP, many of us would.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The world does not revolve around you.

They probably didn’t even notice you.

Thanks for the kind words. My dead 15 week baby also thanks you.

I'm sorry for your loss but this is correct. I doubt they decided to knit baby clothes just to make you feel bad. That is what they were working on probably for their own baby. It had nothing to do with you.

So you would knit baby clothes in front of the crying couple?

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Anonymous wrote:I think a couple crying in an OB's office doesn't care whether or not someone else in the waiting room is knitting.

I did, yes, and started crying harder because it was triggering.

I’m sorry, op, that sucks.

Sorry for your loss- I went through two myself and it was absolutely devastating.

That being said I think your anger is misplaced. While for some reason the knitting struck a particular chord with you, I’d think for most woman suffering a recent loss (myself included) that just sitting in a waiting room full of happy pregnant women/women coming in with their babies for their postpartum checkup would be what was tough and the knitting project someone was completing wouldn’t even be on my radar.

Everyone has different triggers and the fact that this woman wasn’t a mind reader and able to anticipate yours doesn’t make her a bad person. She may have been trying to just look occupied to give you space.

Anonymous wrote:I think a couple crying in an OB's office doesn't care whether or not someone else in the waiting room is knitting.

I did, yes, and started crying harder because it was triggering.

It's insensitive, yes.

I think a couple crying in an OB's office doesn't care whether or not someone else in the waiting room is knitting.

Anonymous wrote:This person was likely in their own world and not paying any attention to the couple.

They were right next to us. It wasn't like they were across the room.

Anonymous wrote:I’m so sorry for your loss. I think you’re wrong about the knitting person but it’s understandable for you to just be upset about everything for a while.

So you would sit next to a couple crying and knit baby clothes in front of them?

Anonymous wrote:...and decide to whip out a knitting set and knit baby clothing in front of them.

Are people really this daft? Do they think people crying at an OB office are just there so they can watch you knit something for a baby they no longer have?

Maybe they are nervous about their own pregnancy and need to do something to occupy their attention and energy.

I’m sorry for your loss, OP. Truly.

But many people around you are going through something too.

I hope you find peace.

This person was likely in their own world and not paying any attention to the couple.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I think you’re wrong about the knitting person but it’s understandable for you to just be upset about everything for a while.

...and decide to whip out a knitting set and knit baby clothing in front of them.

Are people really this daft? Do they think people crying at an OB office are just there so they can watch you knit something for a baby they no longer have?