Anonymous wrote:How did you find out about the trusts if you are estranged?
Or are you in communication but not close and your mother told you?
I say this as a person who has had random friends of my mother tell me that she has money to pass on but she hasn’t said a word to me and has had ample opportunity.
If she’s never shown you documents and the statements behind them, assume it’s just Sabre rattling and don’t give it another thought.
Anonymous wrote:There is no way for the trust money to show up on your tax bill; it is separate from your net worth.
The trust management folks you spoke to are correct.
Anonymous wrote:If each out your children have $1M - do you think they should get financial aid?
Anonymous wrote:We currently are FA family with 2 kids in private MS. My mom who I was estranged with recently passed and listed my 2 kids - her only grandkids as the only beneficiaries to collect the fund at age 25. The money is not for us - is for them upon turning age 25 but with the exception of medical, educational and well being care, funds are able to be withdrawn upon the discretion of a 3rd party Fiduciary.
From what I've read online, irrevocable trust assets will impact FA because it's seen as family money. However, the 2 Trust management 3rd party orgs I've spoken with sounded like FA is something that can still work for us. I wasn't sure if they were just saying that as a sales technique for us to sign on with them or if anyone has had experience with this, would love to know.
We aren't a well to do family and again, the money will be held by a 3rd party to determine funds for our kids but for education, it could help us quite a bit. Wasn't sure however if we used it, we'd use every penny!