Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 16:45     Subject: Who remarries?
Anonymous wrote:I never wanted to divorce, but my husband cheated AND was abusive - I really had no choice. I was just 31 when I left and remarried at 36. Love my husband. So glad I’m remarried.

To answer your question, I remarried for love.


I would definitely remarry if I were your age. I'm in my 50s now (and still married!), so I doubt I ever would. My mom will probably move in with me and I have kids, so I'm not worried about being too lonely.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 16:39     Subject: Who remarries?
I never wanted to divorce, but my husband cheated AND was abusive - I really had no choice. I was just 31 when I left and remarried at 36. Love my husband. So glad I’m remarried.

To answer your question, I remarried for love.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 16:30     Subject: Who remarries?
Anonymous wrote:I see this thinking a lot on DCUM. I’m remarried as are many of my divorced friends. You marry for the same reasons you married the first time - love, commitment, financial incentives and security.

The only people I know that aren’t remarried as those who are only dating casually or not at all.


+1 I chose to get remarried in my 50s because I wanted the deeper commitment of being married. Maybe I’m old fashioned but I love referring to him as my husband rather than boyfriend or partner. I didn’t need the financial incentives but there is security in having two sources of income.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 16:06     Subject: Who remarries?
Anonymous wrote:I see this thinking a lot on DCUM. I’m remarried as are many of my divorced friends. You marry for the same reasons you married the first time - love, commitment, financial incentives and security.

The only people I know that aren’t remarried as those who are only dating casually or not at all.


I married the first time because I wanted to be a mother and have a family.
Now I have those things. So, what’s the point?
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 16:06     Subject: Who remarries?
Anonymous wrote:Religious folks who don’t want sinful cohabiting situations?

Women (or men) who need more financial stability?

Just curious what exactly the perks of remarrying are, especially if you have kids already from an earlier marriage.

So many women are anti-marriage (even a first) and the perks for a second seem even more minimal.


You forgot a group:

Narcissistic idiots who think marriage is easy and that they have no shortcomings.
They are doomed to repeat the past….
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 16:04     Subject: Who remarries?
Anonymous wrote:I think this is a popular trope right now (women not liking men enough to get remarried if they don’t need the financial benefits) but ultimately lots of people do because they don’t want to die alone. A companion late in life makes things less lonely and less scary.


But that’s what I mean. There’s no need to marry to have a companion. You can even live together.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 15:51     Subject: Who remarries?
Anonymous wrote:I will never remarry. I got alimony for life and it would stop if I did. Also I like living alone. My boyfriend has his own home and he knows I never want to live together.


This is aspirational for me. Still licking my wounds, so not dating, but I would be an idiot to ever remarry.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 15:48     Subject: Who remarries?
Anonymous wrote:Older women are desperate to remarry. You can marry someone, put up with them for 5 years or so and then inherit millions. It's a good financial plan for older women. You also can sometimes get pension and social security too.


Where can I meet a rich unhealthy guy?
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 15:48     Subject: Who remarries?
Anonymous wrote:Older women are desperate to remarry. You can marry someone, put up with them for 5 years or so and then inherit millions. It's a good financial plan for older women. You also can sometimes get pension and social security too.


I don't find this to be true in my circle. But we're pretty successful on our own. What I see is men who want a nurse with a purse.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 15:46     Subject: Who remarries?
Older women are desperate to remarry. You can marry someone, put up with them for 5 years or so and then inherit millions. It's a good financial plan for older women. You also can sometimes get pension and social security too.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 15:44     Subject: Who remarries?
I see this thinking a lot on DCUM. I’m remarried as are many of my divorced friends. You marry for the same reasons you married the first time - love, commitment, financial incentives and security.

The only people I know that aren’t remarried as those who are only dating casually or not at all.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 15:44     Subject: Who remarries?
More second and third marriages end in divorce than first ones.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 15:44     Subject: Who remarries?
I will never remarry. I got alimony for life and it would stop if I did. Also I like living alone. My boyfriend has his own home and he knows I never want to live together.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 15:42     Subject: Who remarries?
I think this is a popular trope right now (women not liking men enough to get remarried if they don’t need the financial benefits) but ultimately lots of people do because they don’t want to die alone. A companion late in life makes things less lonely and less scary.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 15:40     Subject: Who remarries?
Religious folks who don’t want sinful cohabiting situations?

Women (or men) who need more financial stability?

Just curious what exactly the perks of remarrying are, especially if you have kids already from an earlier marriage.

So many women are anti-marriage (even a first) and the perks for a second seem even more minimal.