Anonymous
01/29/2024 12:51
Subject: Hate working
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Change jobs if you hate your job.
+1
I get feeling unfulfilled, but it’s pretty crappy to say to a partner “hey, I don’t like my job, luckily you make enough, so I’m quitting!”
It’s work, not fun - assuming it’s not toxic or making you sick, find something new, rather than quitting and putting the stress of being a sole income earner on your partner.
I’m a woman whose husband wasn’t very proactive about finding a new job after an unexpected job loss - in theory we were fine on my salary - but it made me really stressed.
The reality for many women is that the burden of bringing home the $ is on the man and planning and running a household is on the woman.
There are also cultural things at play and the fact hired men often commit crimes and start wars.
Also some husbands want happy wives and don’t rely on their spouse for income.
Anonymous
01/29/2024 12:43
Subject: Hate working
Don’t quit until you have something else lined up!!!
Anonymous
01/29/2024 12:41
Subject: Hate working
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Change jobs if you hate your job.
+1
I get feeling unfulfilled, but it’s pretty crappy to say to a partner “hey, I don’t like my job, luckily you make enough, so I’m quitting!”
It’s work, not fun - assuming it’s not toxic or making you sick, find something new, rather than quitting and putting the stress of being a sole income earner on your partner.
I’m a woman whose husband wasn’t very proactive about finding a new job after an unexpected job loss - in theory we were fine on my salary - but it made me really stressed.
Talk to your partner about looking for a new job. If he suggests you just quit, decide if you like that option. Otherwise, look for a new job! Since you doing depend on your salary you can prioritize other things in your job hunt unlike the rest of us.
Anonymous
01/29/2024 12:38
Subject: Hate working
If you have kids, the WFH is pretty valuable. Are you in a subject matter area where that is kind of standard?
Anonymous
01/29/2024 12:36
Subject: Hate working
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Change jobs if you hate your job.
+1
I get feeling unfulfilled, but it’s pretty crappy to say to a partner “hey, I don’t like my job, luckily you make enough, so I’m quitting!”
It’s work, not fun - assuming it’s not toxic or making you sick, find something new, rather than quitting and putting the stress of being a sole income earner on your partner.
I’m a woman whose husband wasn’t very proactive about finding a new job after an unexpected job loss - in theory we were fine on my salary - but it made me really stressed.
The genders in the OP's situation are opposite to your situation, so the dynamics are different. The idea that both adults must serve the capitalist machine is one of the most ridiculous concepts embraced by 3rd wave feminism. If one income is enough, it's enough. There are lots of other things to do in life to both A. attain self fulfillment and B. to contribute to the well being of a spouse and household.
Anonymous
01/29/2024 12:17
Subject: Hate working
Look for a new job each day for 10-15 minutes and start sending your resume out 1-3 times a day OP. It will make you feel better to know you are actively looking. In the meantime, remind yourself each day that you are doing your job to support your family by providing benefits. I work to stay busy, not because we 'need' my earnings. I love what I do, but some days it's a grind. Hang in there!
Anonymous
01/29/2024 11:53
Subject: Hate working
Anonymous wrote:Change jobs if you hate your job.
+1
I get feeling unfulfilled, but it’s pretty crappy to say to a partner “hey, I don’t like my job, luckily you make enough, so I’m quitting!”
It’s work, not fun - assuming it’s not toxic or making you sick, find something new, rather than quitting and putting the stress of being a sole income earner on your partner.
I’m a woman whose husband wasn’t very proactive about finding a new job after an unexpected job loss - in theory we were fine on my salary - but it made me really stressed.
Anonymous
01/29/2024 11:47
Subject: Hate working
Anonymous wrote:I went years without health insurance and would continue if I didn't get it for cheap now. Health insurance is a scam. I would only have it for kids.
Wwyd if you had to have surgery and a hospital stay? Could be 100k right there.
Anonymous
01/29/2024 11:45
Subject: Hate working
Change jobs if you hate your job.
Anonymous
01/29/2024 11:35
Subject: Hate working
I went years without health insurance and would continue if I didn't get it for cheap now. Health insurance is a scam. I would only have it for kids.
Anonymous
01/29/2024 11:24
Subject: Hate working
Quit. Find something better. Looks like you are in a financial position to be able to do that.
Anonymous
01/29/2024 11:13
Subject: Hate working
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Since it's low pay, why not quit and stretch the dollar DH makes.
The main reason is health insurance: insanely expensive through dh’s job. We would have to do the ACA which would be much more expensive than current insurance even for bronze plan.
You could work somewhere mindless like Starbucks or Ikea and get benefits
Anonymous
01/29/2024 11:10
Subject: Hate working
Anonymous wrote:Since it's low pay, why not quit and stretch the dollar DH makes.
The main reason is health insurance: insanely expensive through dh’s job. We would have to do the ACA which would be much more expensive than current insurance even for bronze plan.
Anonymous
01/29/2024 11:04
Subject: Hate working
Since it's low pay, why not quit and stretch the dollar DH makes.
Anonymous
01/29/2024 10:48
Subject: Hate working
I have a soul sucking job with lots of minutia and oversight. It is low pay, high stress but also very easy in some ways. The stress comes from the level of oversight and meetings. Sometimes I just want to quit. The two great things about it are working from home and some decent benefits. Dh makes much much more than I do and sometimes it is hard to motivate when I think about it.