51 year old man here married 20 years. I've never touched another woman since we have been married. But, when we were engaged I did sleep with her best friend about 20 times.

Nobody can be 100% certain; we can’t even be certain we aren’t bodies living in a soup a la The Matrix. But I will say I think that is more likely than my husband having cheated on me, for a few reasons: 1) his libido isn’t very high 2) he has genuinely good character 3) he can’t compartmentalize at all. And maybe 4) he had a pretty good childhood and so has minimal baggage.

Id say I would be more likely to cheat, honestly. I cannot see a situation where that would happen, and though I see why people do it, it’s totally against my morals. But I have more risk factors than he does.

I sincerely doubt it. He has a moral code that is amazing. I don’t doubt that he finds some other women to be hot but I think my libido keeps him well satisfied. I came close once many years ago but I didn’t let it happen.

Anonymous wrote:Anyone with a raised hand is naive af.

44yo man here. Married to DW for 16 years. I can raise my hand, and so can DW

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Anonymous wrote:I will raise mine And I am not naïve. But my husband just doesn't have it in him. He is far from perfect, as am I, but we are not cheaters.

Same. Plus I honestly have no idea when hr would have.

I will raise mine And I am not naïve. But my husband just doesn't have it in him. He is far from perfect, as am I, but we are not cheaters.

Anonymous wrote:Anyone with a raised hand is naive af.

Believe it or not, some people are faithful to each other.

I actually don’t think /am not sure he has, but I wish he had. He could use it to let loose and live a little.

That said, a few years ago, he suddenly became a little more open and kinkier (in a vanilla way). If it was because of someone else, I’ve reaped the benefits.

Anonymous wrote:Anyone with a raised hand is naive af.

This doesn’t even make sense

Anyone with a raised hand is naive af.

My man is dumb and leaves evidence so I know he has cheated. I have not addressed it. Me on the other hand have never cheated or been with more than one person at a time. SIGH.

I think it depends on what you define "unfaithful" as. Has he put his thing in another woman? No. Has he scrolled on videos of "good looking" women and interacted with them on social media, yes.

Nothing is certain but death and taxes.

... if you are certain your spouse has never been unfaithful.