my dd has to wash her hair every day. she's 11 and by the end of the day her hair is limp, next morning it's greasy.

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Anonymous wrote:So -- what do you say when the kid says, "i don't care" and/or "it's fine, I want to save water" or "you don't have to wash your hair everyday"

No one needs to wash their hair every day.

OP here. This is in part what I am wondering is reasonable. She has relatively fine, medium thickness, but totally straight hair and it DOES look gross after a day... but...

Anonymous wrote:You all make your girls wash their hair everyday?

I'm wondering that too. It's insane if they do.

Anonymous wrote:So -- what do you say when the kid says, "i don't care" and/or "it's fine, I want to save water" or "you don't have to wash your hair everyday"

No one needs to wash their hair every day.

What would you have to do to *make her*? Take her phone until she's clean?

Anonymous wrote:My 13 year old is not into showering still. unless i hound her. I dont care that much generally, but she also has a lot of acne (not scaring type yet) and It's clear to me that the greasy hair in her face doesn't help. (Yes, I am irritated right now after another conversation about the need to shower). Do I make her?

Yes you do. That's disgusting

You all make your girls wash their hair everyday?

Anonymous wrote:So -- what do you say when the kid says, "i don't care" and/or "it's fine, I want to save water" or "you don't have to wash your hair everyday"

Same thing I say when they tell me they don’t want to empty the dishwasher or put away their laundry. “Too bad.”

So -- what do you say when the kid says, "i don't care" and/or "it's fine, I want to save water" or "you don't have to wash your hair everyday"

We have a shower schedule for everyone. They have to stick with it. My DD is an athlete so she showers every day. Non negotiable.

I have to get on her about remembering deodorant. I just say, you’d rather I be the one to tell you you smell than your friends…

It is important to teach proper hygiene. I resisted showers as well as a kid, and I resent that my mother didn’t at least try to teach me a bit about keeping clean. It could have spared me some bullying and improved my confidence. (Don’t assume your kid isn’t bullied, or even just mildly teased, because they haven’t told you.)

My 14 year old DS is the same way. I make him shower of course. And keep his hair short so that it doesn't sit on his face. His acne improves with those two things.

Anonymous wrote:Of course, make her have proper hygiene!

+1 In addition to parents setting reasonable hygiene expectations for their kids, when you live in a communal environment, you need to maintain a certain level of hygiene out of respect for the people you're living with.

Of course, make her have proper hygiene!

My 13 year old is not into showering still. unless i hound her. I dont care that much generally, but she also has a lot of acne (not scaring type yet) and It's clear to me that the greasy hair in her face doesn't help. (Yes, I am irritated right now after another conversation about the need to shower). Do I make her?