Anonymous wrote:An 18 mo old child should not have to learn that they have to go to school. They may be crying for attention but that is not a bad thing. Babies and toddlers need their parent's attention. They are not able to verbalize their feelings. Their feelings do matter though. Putting infants and toddlers in daycare centers has been normalized even though it may not be in the best interest of any child.

This.

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Anonymous wrote:There's always a kid who cries at drop offs, everyone else is fine. I have seen a dad or mom dropping the boy off to a center and leaves fast. Leaves the crying 3 years old there.

This big boy is whiney, spoiled, controls the mom, she doesn't dicipline him or tell him we have to go this way. Her kid controls her! Then they ask why they're whiney and anxious.

When they're leaving the brat wants to go some other way and makes a fuss to the mom and she lets him go his way. No wonder that 3 years old is whiney as hell

An 18 mo old child should not have to learn that they have to go to school. They may be crying for attention but that is not a bad thing. Babies and toddlers need their parent's attention. They are not able to verbalize their feelings. Their feelings do matter though. Putting infants and toddlers in daycare centers has been normalized even though it may not be in the best interest of any child.

Give it one month.

There's always a kid who cries at drop offs, everyone else is fine. I have seen a dad or mom dropping the boy off to a center and leaves fast. Leaves the crying 3 years old there.

This big boy is whiney, spoiled, controls the mom, she doesn't dicipline him or tell him we have to go this way. Her kid controls her! Then they ask why they're whiney and anxious.

Anonymous wrote: I'm a nurse. Usually those kids has anxiety with social events and are diagnosed with some disability around age of preschool.

I suggest keep it quick at drop offs. The kid cries for your attention when he still sees you there.
Gotta learn that he will go to school and needs to control himself.
We live in a social world

Just to respond to this kind of intense thing for pp to throw out there...my kid was totally 100% this...we ended up having to pull him and patch something together (which we were lucky to be able to do) but now he's 7 and a well-adjusted, social, academically talented guy. I think this is just some kids' temperments, not a disability. It doesn't hurt to be on the lookout for challenges but by no means is this diagnostic.

If the kid is not happy at the daycare pull him out and find a better one.

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Anonymous wrote:If you have time to wait it out then wait it out. Time will help with everything.

If you don’t then start to think of other options that you may need to take. If this is a large daycare center, you may want to try something else. It can be an intimidating environment for a small child due to the amount of kids and people in the building.

I don't like big centers. I prefer a nanny or a small family daycare

It's true. Young kids shouldn't be in big centers. So young. Soon they will be in kindergarten with a big class with 1 teacher. Classes needs 2 assistants, too many kids

Anonymous wrote:If you have time to wait it out then wait it out. Time will help with everything.

If you don’t then start to think of other options that you may need to take. If this is a large daycare center, you may want to try something else. It can be an intimidating environment for a small child due to the amount of kids and people in the building.

I don't like big centers. I prefer a nanny or a small family daycare

I know a boy who was a premie and has some mental issue, his limbs are so flaccid and tends to fall a lot.

Just keep it quick at drop offs, bye!
Kids are fine after a minute. Some kids are happy, waves at the providers and assistant and engages but some others usually the ones who are very spoiled are more bratty, whiney, cries and even cries when sees a new person

Every kid is different. Sube is a phase. Or try a new daycare. Also take him to a doctor and let him evaluate your child

I'm a nurse. Usually those kids has anxiety with social events and are diagnosed with some disability around age of preschool.

I suggest keep it quick at drop offs. The kid cries for your attention when he still sees you there.
Gotta learn that he will go to school and needs to control himself.
We live in a social world

We had the same thing happen. My dd went on a hunger strike at daycare, sobbed so hard they thought she was sick and refused all naps.

We are 8 months in and drop offs are still hard. But not horrible. Not tears, just pleading to stay. She now eats and naps. She also has friends she talks about.

Does daycare provide lunch? I started bringing in familiar food from home that could be offered first (pouch, cliff bar, etc) and that seemed to get her interested in eating.

You have to power power through.

If you have time to wait it out then wait it out. Time will help with everything.

If you don’t then start to think of other options that you may need to take. If this is a large daycare center, you may want to try something else. It can be an intimidating environment for a small child due to the amount of kids and people in the building.

I sent my older child to daycare at 18 months and while there was a lot of crying at drop off for a while, the rest of the day was fine, I was told.

I'm now sending my younger one at the same age and we're on week 2 and really struggling. Not only is drop off tough, but she apparently is just crying throughout the day every day, refusing to eat lunch and not napping well. I usually pick her up and she's still crying. She lost her voice after the first couple of days there. She's generally a pretty chill, well-adjusted baby at home. She's probably had more social interaction than my older one who was a pandemic baby and barely saw anyone before he started daycare.

Any tips/suggestions? Or just wait it out? Per the teacher's instructions I've brought a favorite stuffed animal and some books for her. I'm also not lingering around at drop off. I know it will get better, but am wondering if there is anything I could do to make it less miserable.