Anonymous wrote:Why isn't there a community backlash against this? Supplying alcohol to under aged kids is illegal and dangerous.

We are supposed to be protecting our kids and yet it seems we are protecting these parents and their poor judgment?

Probably because it’s not broadcast. Parents can’t say outright that they are having a party and providing alcohol, that’s illegal. So it’s kept quiet, kids spread the word or certain parents become known for being lenient, but won’t cop to it if asked by other parents. The best defense is talking to your kid and having a good relationship with open communication.

Why isn't there a community backlash against this? Supplying alcohol to under aged kids is illegal and dangerous.

We are supposed to be protecting our kids and yet it seems we are protecting these parents and their poor judgment?

Anonymous wrote:This generation of "parents" is more interested in being liked by their kids. Hence, more interested to provide alcohol, and in some cases, get bombed w/them.

I've also heard parents say they want their kids to be liked.

Why isn't there a community backlash against this? Supplying alcohol to under aged kids is illegal and dangerous.

We are supposed to be protecting our kids and yet it seems we are protecting these parents and their poor judgment?

Anonymous wrote:No. There’s no justification. It is a red herring.
I am trying to understand why parents allow kids to throw parties and either turn a blind eye to alcohol use and abuse and/or supply it.

Why isn’t there massive parental community backlash against this?

The justification I’ve usually seen is along the lines of, kids are going to get alcohol anyway so I’d rather they do that in our home where I can keep an eye on it.

I don’t personally agree with this, but that’s what I’ve heard. Doesn’t seem like these parents actually do much to keep an eye on things even if that’s what they tell themselves.

Anonymous wrote:Research showing young adult marijuana users more at risk of mental illnesses.

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/rcna84984

+1 and these mental health disorders have increased greatly in college age males in particular

https://nida.nih.gov/publications/research-reports/marijuana/there-link-between-marijuana-use-psychiatric-disorders

Anonymous wrote:Kids are gonna drink and find alcohol either way. It’s a fact of life. I’m a boomer /gen X and we were able to access it freely in those days. Fake ID and lower drinking age etc. parents turned a blind eye. Every generation experiences it differently but it’s never gonna go away.

I'm a GenXer with Silent Generation parents. Yes- we drank a lot in the 80s/90s. Different culture nowadays.

I have boys--Sophomore and Senior and they are so busy with sports, school, etc. Games on weekends that they aren't into drinking/partying. They tend to have a few friends over or go to their home--they are definitely not drinking our house is small. My oldest is also kind of a health nut with his sport and what he puts in his body.

I really stress no weed to them because the weed today is linked to psychiatric issues---worse in boys too. I find these effects much more worrisome and it used to always be seen as weed was the lesser of two evils--not so much anymore.

https://www.nbcnews.com/health/mental-health/marijuana-use-mental-health-young-adults-weed-rcna84984

Over the last decade of diagnosing countless young patients with new psychotic disorders, one striking result has stuck out for New York City psychiatrist Dr. Ryan Sultan.

“Of all the people I’ve diagnosed with a psychotic disorder,” he said, “I can’t think of a single one who wasn’t also positive for cannabis.”

Sultan, an assistant professor of clinical psychiatry at Columbia Irving Medical Center, is one of many experts raising serious concerns about the increasing marijuana use by adolescents and young adults.
“Really, the ideal time to consider using weed — if you’re going to use it — is 26 or later,” Sultan said.

People who wait until at least age 26 are much less likely to become addicted or develop mental disorders, said Dr. Sharon Levy, a pediatrician and addiction specialist at Boston Children’s Hospital.

And the evidence is growing of marijuana’s association with psychiatric disorders such as depression, bipolar disorder and schizophrenia, especially in young men.

Kids are gonna drink and find alcohol either way. It’s a fact of life. I’m a boomer /gen X and we were able to access it freely in those days. Fake ID and lower drinking age etc. parents turned a blind eye. Every generation experiences it differently but it’s never gonna go away.

Research showing young adult marijuana users more at risk of mental illnesses.

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/rcna84984

I'm not a fan of parents who are permissive about young alcohol (or weed) use.

There are many kids who can use a few times and walk away. There are kids who will become addicted and have their life go completely sideways. I absolutely believe that there are people who just have a genetic (not necessarily hereditary but genetic) tendency towards addiction. You really don't know how your kid stands in this regard until they grow up and start trying (or not) addictive substances.

Best to stay away as much as possible in the young years.

Anonymous wrote:Studies seem to show that parents providing alcohol to teens or having a lenient approach to it create pathways for abuse.


Are there any studies out there allowing for a more permissive approach?

I don't know about studies and we do not give alcohol to our kids or allow them to drink in our house.

I will say though is if they don't go to house parties they start going out to clubs and other venues in DC so honestly I would prefer them to be at a house party then some random club in DC. Never thought I would say that.

This generation of "parents" is more interested in being liked by their kids. Hence, more interested to provide alcohol, and in some cases, get bombed w/them.

No. There’s no justification. It is a red herring.
I am trying to understand why parents allow kids to throw parties and either turn a blind eye to alcohol use and abuse and/or supply it.

Why isn’t there massive parental community backlash against this?

You’re looking for a study to justify giving alcohol to teens?

Studies seem to show that parents providing alcohol to teens or having a lenient approach to it create pathways for abuse.


Are there any studies out there allowing for a more permissive approach?