We wear pajama pants 24/7.

Children now address adults by first name.

OP I like tradition. 20 years ago when I married a mom hosting was gauche. Things are changing fast!

I’ve never heard of this rule at all and wouldn’t care, but my boomer mother insisted she couldn’t host my baby shower. Except she wanted to pay for it and help plan it, so she just coordinated with my friends while having them “host” it. It seemed so silly to me but I guess that rule was very important to her generation.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m old school and still feels tacky to me (I’m 43) but it’s becoming much more common. I’m not sure why this is such an issue for the younger generations. My aunt hosted my bridal shower and my new SIL hosted my baby shower. Neither were wealthy or had large homes. Both did a lovely job. Why can’t other people host any more? They spent all their money on a bachelorette to Vegas?

I’m pretty sure that both an aunt and a SIL still violate the “rule,” so you’re poor and tacky too. Sorry.

NP. Traditionally MOH and/or bridal party hosts the shower. However, for a baby shower, an aunt, SIL, cousin, any friend may host so the PP not really wrong.

I often adhere to many traditions of etiquette but things are much more relaxed today, and so I would not be aghast over this invite. Host and celebrate your daughter.

* what I am aghast over….hosting parties, weddings, showers and asking for$ from the guests, asking for $$ on the registry to pay for honeymoon, downpayment on house, $ for anything!

Anonymous wrote:This is totally normal and you shouldn’t worry about it. If people are “shocked” that outs them as old fashioned people with too much time on their hands.

It’s definitely not normal in some social circles, and since people are “shocked” that op is hosting, it seems they think it’s tacky as well. That’s really all that matters.

Anonymous wrote:I’m old school and still feels tacky to me (I’m 43) but it’s becoming much more common. I’m not sure why this is such an issue for the younger generations. My aunt hosted my bridal shower and my new SIL hosted my baby shower. Neither were wealthy or had large homes. Both did a lovely job. Why can’t other people host any more? They spent all their money on a bachelorette to Vegas?

I’m pretty sure that both an aunt and a SIL still violate the “rule,” so you’re poor and tacky too. Sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:This is what you think about at 3am? Get a life.

Yes, my daughter had asked me to host her shower. It’s been awhile since I had been to one and immediately agreed. Ive mentioned it to a few people who seemed shocked, so trying to figure out if I’m committing a faux pas. Trust me, I have other issues as well, but this is the one on my mind tonight!

Yes you are committing a faux pas. The younger generations don’t care though. Don’t you have friends who could host or doesn’t she have friends who could host but you cover most of the expenses?

I’m old school and still feels tacky to me (I’m 43) but it’s becoming much more common. I’m not sure why this is such an issue for the younger generations. My aunt hosted my bridal shower and my new SIL hosted my baby shower. Neither were wealthy or had large homes. Both did a lovely job. Why can’t other people host any more? They spent all their money on a bachelorette to Vegas?

In my circle, it’s becoming more common for the mothers to host bridal and baby showers. It used to be an aunt or cousin was the host, but maybe with people living fat apart, it has been left to the mothers.

This is totally normal and you shouldn’t worry about it. If people are “shocked” that outs them as old fashioned people with too much time on their hands.

That hasn’t happened in my family but aunts and cousins have done it and I don’t think it really matters any more.

It would tacky with my friends/family. It really depends on your specific circle Op

Very normal for my circle of friends and family. If you feel uncomfortable with it, you could always have guests rsvp to someone else or a generic email (larlasshower@gmail.com) but it definitely seems typical nowadays!

Anonymous wrote:This is what you think about at 3am? Get a life.

Yes, my daughter had asked me to host her shower. It’s been awhile since I had been to one and immediately agreed. Ive mentioned it to a few people who seemed shocked, so trying to figure out if I’m committing a faux pas. Trust me, I have other issues as well, but this is the one on my mind tonight!

This is what you think about at 3am? Get a life.

Is it now acceptable for mother of the bride to host a bridal shower? I know in the the past this was considered bad manners, but apparently it is now acceptable?

I’ve done my google research, now looking for some real life experiences, lol. Thanks !