my lust for my then GF and now DW has evolved over thee years. Before, when we were dating it was animalistic. Now, it is very much linked to a much deeper and stronger love/bond we have for each other.

If anything, my lust for her, driven by a deeper love, is even stronger. sure from time to time she'll wear lingerie to appease my visual senses but really, I want her all the time irrespective of what outfit she may be wearing. Of course she does wear certain outfits that she knows gets an even 'stronger' reaction from me and we both get to enjoy the benefits of that.

Anonymous wrote:If you truly love a woman, are you attracted to her (wanting to connect with her sexually) only if she’s wearing something that catches your eye— e.g., a certain underwear / lingerie? Or, do you crave her in that way because of something deeper?

Love isn't just physical. That is lust. I dated a girl for two years and loved her more in a t-shirt and shorts with no make up. In fact, once she asked me if she was wearing make up and I wasn't sure. She was already very pretty (similar look to Minka Kelly). She had a great personality and we clicked very well. On certain days we would stay home and just watch movies all day and never leave the house and it felt happy and productive.

Lust is wanting to be with someone because they are attractive OR have a trait you are very drawn to. I know some women who are addicted to a man because he's popular, rich, or is high successful.

Anonymous wrote:I mostly don't care. In fact, I didn't even like lingerie until recently. I had the good fortune of dating a few women who looked amazing in lingerie. I ended up spending a lot on lingerie gifts when I was with them. I doubt I'll do that with my current GF, who is older and less toned. In my opinion some women actually look worse in lingerie. It emphasizes their imperfections. Honestly I'm not as attracted physically to my current GF but I like her very much so I'm hoping things will work out and the physical part will improve as we get to know and trust each other.

I pretty much want to connect with her sexually all the time. She'll put on the lingerie when she wants to connect with me sexually.

Anonymous wrote:I mostly don't care. In fact, I didn't even like lingerie until recently. I had the good fortune of dating a few women who looked amazing in lingerie. I ended up spending a lot on lingerie gifts when I was with them. I doubt I'll do that with my current GF, who is older and less toned. In my opinion some women actually look worse in lingerie. It emphasizes their imperfections. Honestly I'm not as attracted physically to my current GF but I like her very much so I'm hoping things will work out and the physical part will improve as we get to know and trust each other.

My wife looks great in lingerie and naked but she mostly wears it to humor me and only wears it once then it goes in the drawer. Plus, she doesn’t like adding steps. Lol

I mostly don't care. In fact, I didn't even like lingerie until recently. I had the good fortune of dating a few women who looked amazing in lingerie. I ended up spending a lot on lingerie gifts when I was with them. I doubt I'll do that with my current GF, who is older and less toned. In my opinion some women actually look worse in lingerie. It emphasizes their imperfections. Honestly I'm not as attracted physically to my current GF but I like her very much so I'm hoping things will work out and the physical part will improve as we get to know and trust each other.

They’re a little different for me. Love is that she’s my best friend and we do everything together. It just gets stronger year after year as we go out of our way to care for each other and meet each other’s needs over the long term.

Lust is when she looks hot or does something that gets me going. And men’s idea of looking hot probably isn’t what women think it is. She looks amazing in a tank top and jeans or dressed up to go out. Other things she does to accidentally trigger lust include wearing snug fitting anything, lol, or saying something that I find hot.

Anonymous wrote:When my wife smiles at me I get an instant boner. She could be wearing maternity clothes doesn’t matter. I just love her so much.

He is a keeper lol. I wish DH felt the same way about me.

Anonymous wrote:When my wife smiles at me I get an instant boner. She could be wearing maternity clothes doesn’t matter. I just love her so much.

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When my wife smiles at me I get an instant boner. She could be wearing maternity clothes doesn’t matter. I just love her so much.

Lingerie looks better on the floor

If she comes to bed wearing a nice nightgown that definitely gets my attention but she can get my attention wearing just about anything. It’s what she says and the way she looks at me that gets my engine going.

My DH (bf at the time) wanted to jump me when I was in my fleece PJs the first time we slept in the same bed.

IMO, men will jump a woman no matter what she's wearing if he wants her.

I want to jump her if she's just wearing a t-shirt and sweats. Not sure if that's because of something deeper or the normal shallow stuff.

If you truly love a woman, are you attracted to her (wanting to connect with her sexually) only if she’s wearing something that catches your eye— e.g., a certain underwear / lingerie? Or, do you crave her in that way because of something deeper?