Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 13:14     Subject: Breakfast Wars
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It took me SO LONG to just have no reaction in this type of situation. I'm still not perfect, but getting much better.

In a calm, even tone, "I'm sorry we are out of waffles. I will put them on the shopping list. Would you like X, Y, or Z instead? No? Okay, its up to you." Then I might toss an extra something in the lunch box just in case. And move on.


This is the best way to handle. Believe me, it's HARD in the moment when the child is screaming but eventually they will get it out of their system and move on. And if they eat nothing, it won't kill them.


Agree with both PPs. It is hard in the moment, to 1) not lose your cool 2) not scramble to try to please them somehow

But the reaction listed it the most effective IMO
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 12:27     Subject: Re:Breakfast Wars
DC is learning to process a minor disappointment.


How young is this child? If older than Kindergarten, this behavior is ridiculous ...if not SN
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 12:25     Subject: Breakfast Wars
Op, you should not have felt like you needed to solve the problem.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 11:18     Subject: Breakfast Wars
Anonymous wrote:That’s when my mom would’ve slapped the hysterical child. That would’ve been the end of that ridiculousness.


Damn, it's been 30 years and you still remember your mom slapping her children. That's not what I want for my children.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 10:11     Subject: Breakfast Wars
Anonymous wrote:It took me SO LONG to just have no reaction in this type of situation. I'm still not perfect, but getting much better.

In a calm, even tone, "I'm sorry we are out of waffles. I will put them on the shopping list. Would you like X, Y, or Z instead? No? Okay, its up to you." Then I might toss an extra something in the lunch box just in case. And move on.


This is the best way to handle. Believe me, it's HARD in the moment when the child is screaming but eventually they will get it out of their system and move on. And if they eat nothing, it won't kill them.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 10:06     Subject: Breakfast Wars
It took me SO LONG to just have no reaction in this type of situation. I'm still not perfect, but getting much better.

In a calm, even tone, "I'm sorry we are out of waffles. I will put them on the shopping list. Would you like X, Y, or Z instead? No? Okay, its up to you." Then I might toss an extra something in the lunch box just in case. And move on.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 09:07     Subject: Breakfast Wars
Honestly this is good, everyone is winning. The younger DC is learning to process a minor disappointment. Just empathize with the emotion and hold firm on not allowing any expression of the disappointment that violates the kid’s responsibilities or anyone else’s “rights.”

Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 09:06     Subject: Breakfast Wars
Anonymous wrote:Acknowledge his disappointment and then move on. He can choose something else or wait till snack time.

Next time cut the one waffle in half...


+1. Assuming this is not a toddler, just acknowledge the frustration and disappointment, but don't engage with the bargaining and offering new choices. Let him feel his feelings, then offer once he cools down. No point in negotiating while he's still hot.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 08:01     Subject: Breakfast Wars
Hang in there. Younger child is learning, as is older child, but this will happen many times before it will have been fully learned.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 07:41     Subject: Breakfast Wars
That’s when my mom would’ve slapped the hysterical child. That would’ve been the end of that ridiculousness.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 07:23     Subject: Breakfast Wars
Acknowledge his disappointment and then move on. He can choose something else or wait till snack time.

Next time cut the one waffle in half...
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 07:18     Subject: Breakfast Wars
Lol, sorry OP. Hang in there.

When we're having a really rough morning I let DC watch videos of puppies on my phone at the table. Just an idea.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 07:13     Subject: Breakfast Wars
Net eat again. LOL. Great for you, less cooking and will save on the grocery bill. Hang in there OP.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 06:22     Subject: Breakfast Wars
Good luck for the rest of the day OP.
This is a good learning experience for younger DC. You can’t always get what you want.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 06:17     Subject: Breakfast Wars
Ran out of waffles this morning. Older DC snagged the last waffle, younger DC threw a fit. Offered younger DC eggs, bagels, toast, fruit, oatmeal etc. Nope only wanted a waffle. Now younger DC is screaming on the floor that they'll never eat again and how everything is stupid. Good times over here! Hope the day gets better from here on out.