Anonymous wrote:I’m a member of the DC groups - have seen an acquaintance posted who keeps swiping right on me but never follows up and the comments about him were amazingly on point.

There was another guy who’ve I messaged with - and a friend of his defended him, and the overall messages gave me a bigger perspective of what felt off. Nothing illegal or dangerous.

My take away from the groups - some helpful feedback, but women are not a monolithic group, and there’s a lot of weird / sad sh&t too - women’s low self-esteem, lack of boundaries, odd advice. False red flags. Complaining about men when it’s time to just let go. Actually - even that’s been helpful to me because I know I don’t want to go back to that stage of my (younger!) dating life - of spending hours “trying” to understand the dude, etc. my standards for others’ behavior are higher and my tolerance level lower - so I don’t in situations that are annoying / confusing.
Some of the posts are really soap-operatic

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Anonymous wrote:If a man loses his job because of something on the site, it's because he is either a sexual predator, a domestic abuser or is lying about something very important and actionable. Nobody is getting fired for being a player or being an awkward dater.

Yes, the site can devolve into a bit of "he rejected me so he must be a bad guy" at times, but most people on there really try to discourage that. It is invaluable and helpful when it steers women away from men who have current wives, are abusers or have major substance issues. Wouldn't you want to know if the man you were meeting tonight has a wife? Or a serious criminal record? I would.

I do believe there was initially good intent but these sites devolve into near hate groups. Guys are finding that they don’t even know some of the people who trashing them. Others are women that they may have talked to in an online dating app but never actually even been out with - or women that they rejected.

Here’s an example thatbwas posted on reddit:

https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/?rdt=40432

As a woman, how would you like it if there were an open forum where men discussed you like this?

Anonymous wrote:If men don’t act like creeps they don’t need to worry about being posted

Anonymous wrote:If a man loses his job because of something on the site, it's because he is either a sexual predator, a domestic abuser or is lying about something very important and actionable. Nobody is getting fired for being a player or being an awkward dater.

Yes, the site can devolve into a bit of "he rejected me so he must be a bad guy" at times, but most people on there really try to discourage that. It is invaluable and helpful when it steers women away from men who have current wives, are abusers or have major substance issues. Wouldn't you want to know if the man you were meeting tonight has a wife? Or a serious criminal record? I would.

Anonymous wrote:OP thank your lucky stars you don’t need to be in there. I am and the number of times a man is posted who’s supposedly exclusive or married but has several other girlfriends is insane. Men are giving women STDs and not divulging they know they’re contagious. There are men who have SA multiple posters. There are men who have stalked women.

It’s honestly terrifying

Anonymous wrote:If a man loses his job because of something on the site, it's because he is either a sexual predator, a domestic abuser or is lying about something very important and actionable. Nobody is getting fired for being a player or being an awkward dater.

Yes, the site can devolve into a bit of "he rejected me so he must be a bad guy" at times, but most people on there really try to discourage that. It is invaluable and helpful when it steers women away from men who have current wives, are abusers or have major substance issues. Wouldn't you want to know if the man you were meeting tonight has a wife? Or a serious criminal record? I would.

Anonymous wrote:Can men check to see if they are on it?