Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You guys might want to revisit the definition of “friend.” You’re supposed to enjoy them! The people you have to see, whether you like them or not? That’s family.

In other words, if the friendship isn’t working anymore, move on….

Moved on in 2022 from some friendships that weren’t working. Some keeping up with the Joneses controlling types. Best decision ever.

Same, in 2023. I’m so much happier.

I felt this way a couple of years ago and let a few friendships drop. I also stopped accepting invitations out of obligation. Best decision ever. I’m much happier and more engaged when we do get together with the friends that we still see. It also opened up capacity for a couple new friendships.

It’s okay to edit your friend list.

Maybe join a swingers circuit.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I hate saying it, but I hate maintaining these friendships. I’m never lonely. I feel obligated 9/10 times we get together. Why am I doing this? Just in case I need support one day?

My husband pushed me on getting together with people so he/we aren’t looked upon as total losers with no plans…

Who is doing the looking and declaring you losers?

Anonymous wrote:Holidays and New Years just pushed me over. I’m sure they are sick if us too. Hard to meet new couples as friends.

Do your friends have to be couples?

Anonymous wrote:You guys might want to revisit the definition of “friend.” You’re supposed to enjoy them! The people you have to see, whether you like them or not? That’s family.

In other words, if the friendship isn’t working anymore, move on….

Moved on in 2022 from some friendships that weren’t working. Some keeping up with the Joneses controlling types. Best decision ever.

Maybe just one - we’re good 1:1 but when others are around, she has a tendency to put me down. She also does it to her husband.
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You guys might want to revisit the definition of “friend.” You’re supposed to enjoy them! The people you have to see, whether you like them or not? That’s family.

In other words, if the friendship isn’t working anymore, move on….

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I hate saying it, but I hate maintaining these friendships. I’m never lonely. I feel obligated 9/10 times we get together. Why am I doing this? Just in case I need support one day?

My husband pushed me on getting together with people so he/we aren’t looked upon as total losers with no plans…

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What friends?

LOL. My thought was "yes...oh wait, I don't have any."

LOL!!! They are so hard to come by in this area!

Anonymous wrote:What friends?

LOL. My thought was "yes...oh wait, I don't have any."

How many times did you see these friends over the holidays?

Yes. I hate saying it, but I hate maintaining these friendships. I’m never lonely. I feel obligated 9/10 times we get together. Why am I doing this? Just in case I need support one day?

What friends?

Holidays and New Years just pushed me over. I’m sure they are sick if us too. Hard to meet new couples as friends.