Anonymous
12/24/2023 06:02
Subject: Why is my co-worker lying about getting married?
If she lied, it's because she's tired of the questions.
Anonymous
12/24/2023 05:57
Subject: Why is my co-worker lying about getting married?
Sooooo this is me. Small wedding just me and DH at the courthouse. No social media campaigns. No ring. No name change til 3, 4 years later. Social Security was a whole gross disgusting hassle. Sat for hours with people coughing up lungs trying to get disability. I had to leave and come back after making an appointment. Almost kept my name.
When my coworkers met my DH I intentionally introduced him by name and not by his title
When my coworkers met my DH I intentionally introduced him by name and not by his title
Anonymous
12/24/2023 04:19
Subject: Re:Why is my co-worker lying about getting married?
So she just said this and no one asked any other details like where it happened, who was there, what she wore…
Bad troll attempt.
Bad troll attempt.
Anonymous
12/24/2023 04:16
Subject: Why is my co-worker lying about getting married?
Socially UNacceptable questions you should never ask:
-When are you two getting married?
-When are you going to have a baby?
-When are you two getting married?
-When are you going to have a baby?
Anonymous
12/24/2023 03:33
Subject: Why is my co-worker lying about getting married?
Or maybe she doesn't want to talk about it with you because she fears you will judge.
That said, in an HR environment, not cool (and maybe she just got married for the paperwork because of the HR situation and benefits)
Also, some thinking women don't change their name after marriage in my opinion inless there's a really compelling reaosn to do so and "because everyone else does" isn't a compelling reason
That said, in an HR environment, not cool (and maybe she just got married for the paperwork because of the HR situation and benefits)
Also, some thinking women don't change their name after marriage in my opinion inless there's a really compelling reaosn to do so and "because everyone else does" isn't a compelling reason
Anonymous
12/24/2023 03:18
Subject: Why is my co-worker lying about getting married?
Anonymous wrote:A group of co-workers and I were talking about relationships. One of our co-workers has been with her partners for many years so someone asked her when she was gonna get married. She said she got married "a few weeks ago". We were surprised to learn this because we we weren't aware of her getting engaged. She's not wearing any rings and she still signs e-mails under her maiden name. I have her on social media, but she hasn't posted anything pointing to her getting married. Her last post is of her and some friends in some informal dinner. I was talking to another friend at work and we both agree that she doesn't seem to be married and that she's probably embarrassed to be dating this guy for such a long time without a ring.
Lol
Troll
Anonymous
12/24/2023 02:57
Subject: Re:Why is my co-worker lying about getting married?
Troll.
Anonymous
12/24/2023 02:04
Subject: Why is my co-worker lying about getting married?
The red flag begins at “someone asked her when she was gonna get married.”
How is this any of your or any other coworker’s business, and who the heck felt entitled to even ask this question??? So bizarre unless this woman brought it up herself, which it does not sound like she did…
How is this any of your or any other coworker’s business, and who the heck felt entitled to even ask this question??? So bizarre unless this woman brought it up herself, which it does not sound like she did…
Anonymous
12/24/2023 01:56
Subject: Why is my co-worker lying about getting married?
I use my maiden name at work. I don't wear rings because ... I don't like wearing rings. And I don't post personal stuff on social media. It's all cool nature shots, food I've cooked or been served at a restaurant, plays I attended, etc. Regardless of all that, I am 100% married and in love.
Anonymous
12/24/2023 01:44
Subject: Why is my co-worker lying about getting married?
What is wrong with you, OP? Many women don’t change their names. Or they do and you don’t know/ I always used my birth name at work—only my check on payroll had my married name. I did not wear rings to work either. I have a friend who is exactly the same.
I was married 15 yrs ago. Back off and mind your own business
I was married 15 yrs ago. Back off and mind your own business
Anonymous
12/24/2023 01:42
Subject: Why is my co-worker lying about getting married?
I know 2 couples who got married after being together for many years without any big celebration or ceremony so it’s very possible she actually did. In both cases they didn’t do social media posts, either. I don’t really see how it would be embarrassing, couples do all kinds of things these days.
Anonymous
12/24/2023 01:37
Subject: Re:Why is my co-worker lying about getting married?
this reminds me of my coworkers 20 years ago who were shaking their heads and saying that my engagement wasn't real b/c I didnt have a ring. I was pretty young and we were both super broke, it got to the point that my lovely older office manager who was a jewish refugee from Ukraine/russia pulled me aside and was like, dont pay any attention to them. A ring or fancy reception doesnt make a strong marriage or family. 20 years later we have kids, a mortgage and a family but I still dont have a wedding/engagement ring. I guess our marriage and family is all pretend according to op.
Anonymous
12/24/2023 01:29
Subject: Why is my co-worker lying about getting married?
Ugh. Were you in a sorority, by chance? I think I know what kind of (mean) girl you are.
What you are actually asking is, “What does it say about me that I can’t imagine getting married without demanding attention from everyone around me, admiring myself on social media, putting on a show for coworkers, flashing material possessions, and giving up my name? Isn’t faking it the only way someone could seem so self-possessed, emotionally secure and level-headed about being in a relationship? I will never be that self-actualized, so anybody who claims to be is faking it, RIGHT?”
Girl, she isn’t “embarrassed”. But somebody in your post should be.
What you are actually asking is, “What does it say about me that I can’t imagine getting married without demanding attention from everyone around me, admiring myself on social media, putting on a show for coworkers, flashing material possessions, and giving up my name? Isn’t faking it the only way someone could seem so self-possessed, emotionally secure and level-headed about being in a relationship? I will never be that self-actualized, so anybody who claims to be is faking it, RIGHT?”
Girl, she isn’t “embarrassed”. But somebody in your post should be.
Anonymous
12/24/2023 01:20
Subject: Re:Why is my co-worker lying about getting married?
Rings, wedding pictures on instagram and surname changes aren't marriage requirements. Just a marriage license and a marriage ceremony are. There's no reason why your co-workers need to inform you about changes in their marital status unless you're part of the HR team and need to update their papers. The legal status of someone's relationship is technically none of your business, and even if she's lying you're not entitled to the truth.
I doubt she's embarrassed. It just sounds like you two aren't even close so she didn't bother informing you and other people about her marriage. I'm pretty sure that those who need to know already know.
I doubt she's embarrassed. It just sounds like you two aren't even close so she didn't bother informing you and other people about her marriage. I'm pretty sure that those who need to know already know.
Anonymous
12/24/2023 01:05
Subject: Why is my co-worker lying about getting married?
A group of co-workers and I were talking about relationships. One of our co-workers has been with her partners for many years so someone asked her when she was gonna get married. She said she got married "a few weeks ago". We were surprised to learn this because we we weren't aware of her getting engaged. She's not wearing any rings and she still signs e-mails under her maiden name. I have her on social media, but she hasn't posted anything pointing to her getting married. Her last post is of her and some friends in some informal dinner. I was talking to another friend at work and we both agree that she doesn't seem to be married and that she's probably embarrassed to be dating this guy for such a long time without a ring.