Anonymous
Post 12/23/2023 18:21     Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t get the whole hate someone else for getting pregnant thing.


It's not hate, why do people say this. It's a take your breath away reminder of what she desperately wants but can't have. Anyone who doesn't get this is just mean.


I think many of us here get, from experience, how hard it is. And if she had posted just that we would have sympathy. But it’s not a reason to write spiteful things about the other person.


There are people that don't deserve to have kids. They are often much younger, but not always. Then there is everyone else that waits, makes their life perfect and yet they end up screwed. That's actually the way life works.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2023 18:19     Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t get the whole hate someone else for getting pregnant thing.


It's not hate, why do people say this. It's a take your breath away reminder of what she desperately wants but can't have. Anyone who doesn't get this is just mean.


I think many of us here get, from experience, how hard it is. And if she had posted just that we would have sympathy. But it’s not a reason to write spiteful things about the other person.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2023 18:18     Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t get the whole hate someone else for getting pregnant thing.


It's not hate, why do people say this. It's a take your breath away reminder of what she desperately wants but can't have. Anyone who doesn't get this is just mean.


And she could have said as much without trashing someone she falsely claims to be her friend, essentially saying that unmarried people have less of a right to have children, and are “crazy.” The friend going through two fiance breakups does not make her a bad person, it makes her a person who has gone through some tough things.

Andhonestly? Better to have had two failed engagements than have even one failed marriage.


Totally disagree. She essentially has 3 failed relationships because, let's be honest, if you aren't getting married after 1 kid you aren't getting married after 2 kids. Never seen it happen.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2023 18:06     Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t get the whole hate someone else for getting pregnant thing.


It's not hate, why do people say this. It's a take your breath away reminder of what she desperately wants but can't have. Anyone who doesn't get this is just mean.


And she could have said as much without trashing someone she falsely claims to be her friend, essentially saying that unmarried people have less of a right to have children, and are “crazy.” The friend going through two fiance breakups does not make her a bad person, it makes her a person who has gone through some tough things.

Andhonestly? Better to have had two failed engagements than have even one failed marriage.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2023 17:17     Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
This is mean spirited. I had a miscarriage and had some pain when I met someone with my due date but id never wish harm on them. That’s just wrong.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2023 16:51     Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
Anonymous wrote:I don’t get the whole hate someone else for getting pregnant thing.


It's not hate, why do people say this. It's a take your breath away reminder of what she desperately wants but can't have. Anyone who doesn't get this is just mean.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2023 16:44     Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
OP, seriously, just go to the reddit infertility sub. You'll actually get support there. This is not the place.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2023 16:10     Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
I have heard that Judgmental people have a hard time having kids.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2023 16:09     Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements

You are allowed to grieve, OP. I'm so sorry for your loss.

But please don't write out, even on an anonymous board, feelings of resentment towards someone else who is pregnant. It's not her fault. Of course you can cry out inside: "Why her and not me!". But once you start criticizing her choices in life in the same breath, you know you're not being rational or kind.

Best wishes to you.

Anonymous
Post 12/23/2023 16:05     Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
I don’t get the whole hate someone else for getting pregnant thing.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2023 15:41     Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
The fact that you are experiencing difficulty does not give you the right to be a judgmental cow to someone you call a “friend.” Do her a favor, show your true colors, and don’t pretend to be her “friend” any more.

Congratulations to her, I hope she enjoys every minute of her pregnancy and is joyful with baby snuggles soon.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2023 15:33     Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My fiancée left me a week before we got married. It’s hurtful you would use that as an insult.


I get it happening once, she had it happen twice. But she is also crazy independent of that which is why she's not married and having kids.


Keep digging op
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2023 15:05     Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
Anonymous wrote:My fiancée left me a week before we got married. It’s hurtful you would use that as an insult.


I get it happening once, she had it happen twice. But she is also crazy independent of that which is why she's not married and having kids.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2023 15:01     Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
My fiancée left me a week before we got married. It’s hurtful you would use that as an insult.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2023 14:59     Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
Ugh I knew it was coming but sometimes it still just gut punches you. I was due April 2024 so of course any of these announcements sting.

But it had to be my crazy friend, (super crazy, left at the alter twice kind of crazy). Unmarried already has 1 kid with the guy and yep. Had to be her.