Anonymous
12/23/2023 11:14
Subject: I cook dinner 28 days per month
We got Blue Apron for a few months a couple of years ago, and it got my husband a lot more comfortable in the kitchen. He just had no idea how to make a meal for family.
Anonymous
12/23/2023 11:13
Subject: I cook dinner 28 days per month
He (they?) have you well trained. Clearly you DH can cook. So you need to have a convo about division of labor.
Anonymous
12/23/2023 11:13
Subject: I cook dinner 28 days per month
I remember my dad doing this when my mom was out of town or working at the hospital on the weekend. He would make himself a nice meal and forget to feed us.
Anonymous
12/23/2023 11:09
Subject: Re:I cook dinner 28 days per month
This totally sounded like me 2 years ago. Then I just started opting out. I now have weekly evening commitments when DH has to handle dinners on his own. Weekends, I just stopped doing most meals. DH started doing a weekend grocery run to do some weekend meals, and at least one meal for during the week. Also, I started telling my kids that they were going to have to learn to pack their own lunches. Started with 1 day a week, and moved up each week, and now my oldest is independently packing lunches 4 days a week.
I also started telling my kids that they need to start learning how to do their own laundry. At first I helped them. Then slowly they have learned to do all the steps on their own.
I also started telling my kids that they need to start learning how to do their own laundry. At first I helped them. Then slowly they have learned to do all the steps on their own.
Anonymous
12/23/2023 11:08
Subject: I cook dinner 28 days per month
Your DH sounds like the “I’m not a mind reader” type of guy. Men like this often appreciate direct instructions and won’t ever pick up on passive aggression or resentment.
Anonymous
12/23/2023 10:56
Subject: I cook dinner 28 days per month
Tell him that what he did was selfish and rude, especially given how often you cook for him. You know, communication.
Something similar happened with my DH once, and I told him about it and ever since he has asked me if I want anything when he makes eggs or a hot breakfast of any kind.
Communication, OP. Stop being a doormat.
Something similar happened with my DH once, and I told him about it and ever since he has asked me if I want anything when he makes eggs or a hot breakfast of any kind.
Communication, OP. Stop being a doormat.
Anonymous
12/23/2023 10:56
Subject: I cook dinner 28 days per month
Anonymous wrote:My husband likes to make himself a nice breakfast while mine gets cold or I shove calories in my face without noticing because I am jumping up every 2 seconds for the kids or being their only conversational partner too. Then when his eggs are done the kids are also done and he gets a nice quiet breakfast by himself at the table. I blew up at him about it this morning and I'm still pissed. And this is a guy who does his share of dinners....
I don't understand this. How does this end up happening?
Anonymous
12/23/2023 10:54
Subject: I cook dinner 28 days per month
My husband likes to make himself a nice breakfast while mine gets cold or I shove calories in my face without noticing because I am jumping up every 2 seconds for the kids or being their only conversational partner too. Then when his eggs are done the kids are also done and he gets a nice quiet breakfast by himself at the table. I blew up at him about it this morning and I'm still pissed. And this is a guy who does his share of dinners....
Anonymous
12/23/2023 10:51
Subject: I cook dinner 28 days per month
How old are the kids? If old enough to cook (even if it is scrambled eggs), start new in 2024. DH cooks once a week and kids cook once a week. They need to request ingredients by X.
Anonymous
12/23/2023 10:50
Subject: I cook dinner 28 days per month
Anonymous wrote:Just stop cooking. Tell your family to fend for themselves. And stop being a doormat and use your words in the meantime.
These sort of women prefer to wallow in their martyrdom. There is no reward in this world or beyond for your domestic sacrifices.
Anonymous
12/23/2023 10:46
Subject: I cook dinner 28 days per month
Thank you for the daily reminder I always find here at DCUM that the life of singledom is to be cherished. I definitely have regrets at times, but then I think about the servitude and disrespect and the regrets dissipate.
Anonymous
12/23/2023 10:45
Subject: I cook dinner 28 days per month
No one is making you cook 28 nights. You are doing it and then complaining about it.
Anonymous
12/23/2023 10:44
Subject: I cook dinner 28 days per month
Just stop cooking. Tell your family to fend for themselves. And stop being a doormat and use your words in the meantime.
Anonymous
12/23/2023 10:43
Subject: I cook dinner 28 days per month
Wow. That was really rude of him!
Anonymous
12/23/2023 10:39
Subject: I cook dinner 28 days per month
We are a family of 4 and DH and I both work FT. I cook dinner for everyone 28 days per month and we get take out once night every other week. I also make everyone's breakfast most mornings unless the kids just want a bagel or yogurt or something else easy.
This morning, we've been up since 6am and kids ate then. DH and I haven't eaten yet. He just spent 30 mins in the kitchen sautéing vegetables and making a big omlette with a side of fresh fruit. Then proceeded to sit down and eat it all by himself, never even asking if I'd like something.
How can people be like this?
This morning, we've been up since 6am and kids ate then. DH and I haven't eaten yet. He just spent 30 mins in the kitchen sautéing vegetables and making a big omlette with a side of fresh fruit. Then proceeded to sit down and eat it all by himself, never even asking if I'd like something.
How can people be like this?