Anonymous
Post 12/21/2023 23:21     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
Anonymous wrote:Remembering so many minor minor events.

I can calendar, I can set reminders, I can show for big events with cookies.

Somehow I successfully have my kid wear pajamas on each Monday in December (or what have you). But the amount of brain space this has to take … it isn’t worth the squeeze.


I have given up on this with kid #2. And she doesn’t seem to care much about it.

Totally with you on the brain space issue
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2023 23:19     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
Anonymous wrote:Keeping your home clutter free and decorated w the latest home fashion trend.

DH and I worked full time while raising our 2 DCs. The house was tidy but not clutter free or model home like. My own mother and MIL would comment passively aggressively about the toys on the floor (during the toddler years), jackets hanging on chairs backs, or throw blankets not folded and draped neatly on couches. It drove me crazy. We do laundry, vaccume, dust, clean the bathrooms every week. Those darn toys are fine to be left on the floor. We are not talking about toys that covered the entire living room floor.


This is not a societal expectation.

Maybe something specific to your niche social circle. Not even on my radar.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2023 23:17     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
Remembering so many minor minor events.

I can calendar, I can set reminders, I can show for big events with cookies.

Somehow I successfully have my kid wear pajamas on each Monday in December (or what have you). But the amount of brain space this has to take … it isn’t worth the squeeze.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2023 22:55     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
Absolutely nothing. You chose to have children and you get no special privileges or favors unless it's your DH.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2023 22:25     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
Anonymous wrote:Being a failure if you’re not thin after kids


Ha I was going to say “look hot” but this one, yes.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2023 22:23     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
Keeping your home clutter free and decorated w the latest home fashion trend.

DH and I worked full time while raising our 2 DCs. The house was tidy but not clutter free or model home like. My own mother and MIL would comment passively aggressively about the toys on the floor (during the toddler years), jackets hanging on chairs backs, or throw blankets not folded and draped neatly on couches. It drove me crazy. We do laundry, vaccume, dust, clean the bathrooms every week. Those darn toys are fine to be left on the floor. We are not talking about toys that covered the entire living room floor.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2023 22:16     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
Anonymous wrote:Being a failure if you’re not thin after kids


Agreed! You have to be fighting fit shape throughout - pre-baby, during pregnancy, after kids, with teens while you are menopausal. It never ends.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2023 21:31     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
Anonymous wrote:Providing nutritious, good-tasting meals on a regular basis, like, every damn day, multiple times a day!


People always talk about 'what do you look for in a husband?" and mention money, education, jobs, etc. I looked for, among being clean and tidy, kind to everyone, confident without being cocky, being a good cook. DH cooks dinner the majority of time we eat it at home. If I decide to have a smoothie for breakfast obviously I make enough for everyone else - same with eggs or oatmeal. But getting three or four components of dinner to be ready at the same time nearly breaks me every time. I don't enjoy planning meals, cooking them, etc. DH does. I'm happy to set the table.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2023 21:27     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
Anonymous wrote:Providing nutritious, good-tasting meals on a regular basis, like, every damn day, multiple times a day!


OMG yes. I had this neighbor once that was probably mid-50's or so. Her kids were grown and out of the house. I went to ask if she had a baking dish when I was cooking a big dinner one time. She was like, no, I don't cook anymore. I found that so odd, but now I GET IT.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2023 21:27     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
Anonymous wrote:I'll start:
making holidays special for entire families.



Correct. I dropped the rope on this. I have all boys. My future DILS can thank me for not setting expectations.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2023 21:27     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
Anonymous wrote:Being a failure if you’re not thin after kids
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This is a bit niche
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2023 21:25     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
Being a failure if you’re not thin after kids
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2023 21:14     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
Providing nutritious, good-tasting meals on a regular basis, like, every damn day, multiple times a day!
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2023 21:12     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
Defaulting to calling moms when school child is sick and school has both parents phone numbers.

obviously this excludes lesbian couples, sorry.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2023 21:11     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
I'll start:
making holidays special for entire families.