My grandfather remarried a woman and he died long before her. It was odd because she was the only grandmother many of the then adult grandchildren knew on that side so everyone tried to maintain a relationship. She wasn’t that interested in the family after his death, which resulted in feelings ranging from anger to indifference to hurt from many. She maintained a real relationship with one grandkid and their family and very limited or none with everyone else - the other grandkids or her step kids (our parents, aunts and uncles).

No. Ha ha ha, no.

My Dad was in a relationship with a woman, who had her own kids and she wants to keep going to my child's events and I've avoided it. She wasn't nice to me when they were dating and put a wedge between my Dad and I and was horrible to me a the funeral and insisted on doing it all (and my sibling allowed it) and that was the final straw. They did a terrible job and she invited her family who didn't know him and excluded his family.

The stepparent who has been in my life since I was 10? Yes. Because he will be very old, his kids are pretty selfish, and I promised my mom I would take care of him.

The stepparent who married my dad three years ago? I think she’ll be onto Husband 4 as soon as the life insurance check clears.

Anonymous wrote:For the step I grew up with, yes for sure. Very much a positive parent figure in my life.

OP - I love reading this. Nice to know there are positive step relationships.

I like both of my step parents better than my biological parents. Yes, I will keep in contact with them.

For the step I grew up with, yes for sure. Very much a positive parent figure in my life.

Yes, was a hard split at the time, kids ( including me) were preteen / early teen. But now as older adults and a parent and stepmother had a long marriage, we have stayed in touch and have visits with my stepmother after our father died. More than 10 years now.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dad and my stepmom have been married for 40 years (I'm 45). They don't have kids together and she doesn't have bio kids. I'm very close to my mom. My stepmom has been part of my life since I was little and even though she's not my favorite person, yes - I will maintain a relationship with her if/when my dad dies.

This is the same for me, but we both maintain the relationship with each other because we want to.

I’m the poster that you are quoting. My older brother feels differently and is much more upset with how she’s behaving through my dad’s recent health crisis.

I will if she wants to, but if she moves back to her home country in Asia I feel like realistically we won't see each other very often if at all.

Anonymous wrote:My dad and my stepmom have been married for 40 years (I'm 45). They don't have kids together and she doesn't have bio kids. I'm very close to my mom. My stepmom has been part of my life since I was little and even though she's not my favorite person, yes - I will maintain a relationship with her if/when my dad dies.

This is the same for me, but we both maintain the relationship with each other because we want to.

My husband's father passed away a few years ago, his father's wife is still alive.
While she has tried to maintain contact with him (us) he wants nothing to do with her. I am supportive of him cutting ties, but also feel guilt, knowing that his father would have wanted us to maintain a relationship. She was never easy to get along with even when he was alive, and was extremely dramatic during his death.

My dad and my stepmom have been married for 40 years (I'm 45). They don't have kids together and she doesn't have bio kids. I'm very close to my mom. My stepmom has been part of my life since I was little and even though she's not my favorite person, yes - I will maintain a relationship with her if/when my dad dies.

Was thinking of it due to this post and all the wills: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/15/1107460.page

If your bio parent remarried and died before their spouse (your stepparent), did you maintain a relationship with the stepparent?