OP is giving off quite a bit of Mrs Costanza energy:

How about tea with dessert? Is that also passé? Or is it just coffee with dessert that is passé?

Anonymous wrote:Wow, is this aimed at a particular person in your life, by any chance?

Ha, obviously. Probably an in-law.

Sending you love, OP.

Whoa buddy those are some big feelings!

Anonymous wrote:I think its rude not to offer a warm beverage to guests before sending them on their way.

Why? During the summer, too?

Anonymous wrote:This is a really strange rant. My extended family doesn’t drink alcohol but they do expect coffee with dessert. At restaurants they often know this and will ask when you’re ordering dessert. Similar to how a lot of people order cognac with dessert.

In the age of keurigs how hard is it to make a cup of coffee?

Keurigs are disgusting. I’ve never had a decent cup of coffee that came out of a pod. So gross.

This is a really strange rant. My extended family doesn’t drink alcohol but they do expect coffee with dessert. At restaurants they often know this and will ask when you’re ordering dessert. Similar to how a lot of people order cognac with dessert.

In the age of keurigs how hard is it to make a cup of coffee?

Wow, is this aimed at a particular person in your life, by any chance?

Geez

Lol. You could also just stop hanging around people and stay at home? All of the people you are around dislike you as much as you dislike them.

I think its rude not to offer a warm beverage to guests before sending them on their way.

Wow, you’re pretty worked up about this.

Cool rant.

Notice I said “expecting” as the first word in that sentence. ENJOYING coffee with dessert is fine. EXPECTING it is annoying and passé.

Don’t hold up a restaurant meal by suddenly deciding *after the desserts have already been ordered and brought to the table* that you also need coffee. If you’re going to order it with dessert, put the order in at the same time as your dessert order. If the check drops and then you decide “coffee too,” you are not only making extra work for the server, but you are forcing everyone else to sit there longer when they are clearly ready to go.

And guess what, it’s 2023 and yes, your dining companions will leave you to it. Once the check hits the table, people are free to leave, and no that’s not rude. You are rude.

Similarly, if a host and hostess treat you to a nice meal at their home, they may offer coffee with dessert; of course you can accept. But if that’s not the habit of the house, it is beyond rude to ask for it. If you “need” coffee that badly, hit the 7/11 or McDonald’s on your way home. At a family member’s house, I suppose you could ask if you could make coffee, but only if you also offer to clean it up.

This is not a thing anymore. It’s annoying and passé. Enjoy it when you can, but don’t expect it and be rude about it.