Anonymous wrote:There they hang on my fridge with pictures of proud families showing off their cubs. It’s like each of their picture-perfect existence is taunting me and saying, “ look we are better than you! We procreated!”

I received a fresh batch today and feel like crying.

I think you should be talking with a therapist if Christmas cards are setting you off.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP. You have the permission from an internet stranger to not hang them on your fridge, not open them on tough days, etc. that would be very painful for anyone in your shoes.

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I'm sorry. And those happy smiling photos may also be going through ( secondary) infertility. Doesn't sting AS much as when i had no kid but the repeated loss and failed treatment cycles still make me sob every month.

Same. You'll see the picture of my smiling family and have received multiple ones of me pregnant right before I lose the pregnancy for the millionth time.

I look at the cards, note any changes in address and then throw them out. This year I cringed at one of the cards because earlier this year, I ran into Daddy out on a romantic date with another woman. Mommy is the nicest woman imaginable and it hurts my heart that he’s doing that to her. Some of those smiling faces are happy, some aren’t. We all have our problems. If looking at these cards makes you sad, don’t even open them and throw them out!

Anonymous wrote:You want to cry because of a picture of a family on a Christmas card?

Go away.

Why are you hanging them up?

I would glance at them and toss. It's not personal in either direction.

Don’t open them and don’t display them.

Best wishes!

Maybe don't display them. You don't need to.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP. You have the permission from an internet stranger to not hang them on your fridge, not open them on tough days, etc. that would be very painful for anyone in your shoes.

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((Hugs))

I'm sorry. And those happy smiling photos may also be going through ( secondary) infertility. Doesn't sting AS much as when i had no kid but the repeated loss and failed treatment cycles still make me sob every month.

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP. You have the permission from an internet stranger to not hang them on your fridge, not open them on tough days, etc. that would be very painful for anyone in your shoes.

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People say it a lot, but OP needs therapy to reverse her destructive worldview.

I’m sorry, OP. You don’t need to display them. If you can’t bear to recycle them, maybe keep them in a pretty box and then empty the box at the end of the season.

I’m very sorry and I wish an easier road for you.

I’m sorry OP. You have the permission from an internet stranger to not hang them on your fridge, not open them on tough days, etc. that would be very painful for anyone in your shoes.

Hugs, OP. I know it's hard to feel like everyone is having kids AT you at the moment. I hope you come to peace with however things turn out for you.

You want to cry because of a picture of a family on a Christmas card?

There they hang on my fridge with pictures of proud families showing off their cubs. It’s like each of their picture-perfect existence is taunting me and saying, “ look we are better than you! We procreated!”

I received a fresh batch today and feel like crying.