Anonymous
Post 12/09/2023 08:44     Subject: As long as my child has *a* parent showing up, it’s okay if it’s not me right?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes. Actually it’s ideal. Your child has 2 parents and you are both important.


Totally agree. The key, OP, is to ignore the guilt trips you may get from other parents or teachers for the stuff you can't go to. That's what happened to me when I changed jobs and DH and I started more evenly splitting school stuff. You have to steel yourself against it. Their reasons for doing it have nothing to do with you. You are doing a good thing for your family and your child is well supported.


What kind of psychopath would give a guilt trip about that? Avoid people who treat parenting like playing with Barbie dolls.
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2023 08:43     Subject: As long as my child has *a* parent showing up, it’s okay if it’s not me right?
Anonymous wrote:Ask the kid what they want. Of course a bunch of working parents who don’t go to everything say it’s fine.


My home has 2 parents. Not all of our friends are that lucky.

But none of us have an 8yr old for a parent. Grow up.
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2023 07:51     Subject: As long as my child has *a* parent showing up, it’s okay if it’s not me right?
Ask the kid what they want. Of course a bunch of working parents who don’t go to everything say it’s fine.
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2023 07:49     Subject: As long as my child has *a* parent showing up, it’s okay if it’s not me right?
Of course it's fine!
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2023 07:09     Subject: Re:As long as my child has *a* parent showing up, it’s okay if it’s not me right?
We live near my parents and I aim to have one family representative attend most things. It’s not always me (mom).
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2023 06:06     Subject: As long as my child has *a* parent showing up, it’s okay if it’s not me right?
Most definitely.
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2023 06:05     Subject: As long as my child has *a* parent showing up, it’s okay if it’s not me right?
My dd likes that she gets Mom sometimes and Dad sometimes at school events.
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2023 05:08     Subject: As long as my child has *a* parent showing up, it’s okay if it’s not me right?
It’s ok but if my kid is performing or graduating I need to be there the rest of that school stuff is for sah “mom” DH
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2023 05:06     Subject: As long as my child has *a* parent showing up, it’s okay if it’s not me right?
Of course! It’s great your child gets time with both at this stuff.
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2023 03:54     Subject: As long as my child has *a* parent showing up, it’s okay if it’s not me right?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes. Actually it’s ideal. Your child has 2 parents and you are both important.


+1000


Yes!!
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2023 01:02     Subject: As long as my child has *a* parent showing up, it’s okay if it’s not me right?
Oh my god, I attend like maybe three things a year and don't feel one ounce of guilt about it.
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2023 00:51     Subject: As long as my child has *a* parent showing up, it’s okay if it’s not me right?
Anonymous wrote:Yes. Actually it’s ideal. Your child has 2 parents and you are both important.


Totally agree. The key, OP, is to ignore the guilt trips you may get from other parents or teachers for the stuff you can't go to. That's what happened to me when I changed jobs and DH and I started more evenly splitting school stuff. You have to steel yourself against it. Their reasons for doing it have nothing to do with you. You are doing a good thing for your family and your child is well supported.
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2023 00:48     Subject: As long as my child has *a* parent showing up, it’s okay if it’s not me right?
Anonymous wrote:Yes. Actually it’s ideal. Your child has 2 parents and you are both important.


+1000
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2023 00:47     Subject: As long as my child has *a* parent showing up, it’s okay if it’s not me right?
Yes. Actually it’s ideal. Your child has 2 parents and you are both important.
Anonymous
Post 12/09/2023 00:44     Subject: As long as my child has *a* parent showing up, it’s okay if it’s not me right?
Feeling guilty after I stepped up my job from one that was FT WFH to one requiring 2-3 days in office (but more pay and promotion opportunity).

I used to attend all the school events but am now only able to attend half and DH attends the other half. Occasionally we both go.