I don’t think the OP has asked a crazy question. I assume the parent has threatened to leave you out of the Will for years. OP is simply wondering if the narcissist generally follows through with their threats? I have no answer, just sympathy for a parent like this.

Wow you guys are just like your moms. Congrats!!

Anonymous wrote:I’m expecting a letter giving her one last opportunity to tell me what a bad daughter I am.

But maybe a tiny dollar amount just to rub on in. I hadn’t thought of that one.

Yes this! In the will it was $1 for the disinherited child plus a death letter describing everything the child did wrong-to get the last word I assume. So predictable that all narcissistic parents play this game.

I assume my mom will leave it to me to deal with all her debts.

There is no formal “reading of the will.” You would be notified by mail if you are included in the will.

I assume she will give it to my kids. She definitely won’t give her money to charity because she considers money love and would want to show her grandkids that she loved them (and me that she doesn’t).

They often try to abuse from the grave with inequality, hurtful letters and that sort of thing.

You are not obliged to go to “the reading of the will.” That used to happen on shows like Dallas; not so much anymore.

Who do narcissistic children focus on?

Usually I thought they had to leave a letter specifically disinheriting you if you're the next of kin and you don't get anything. So that you can't argue that it was an oversight. Or they have to leave you like a hundred dollars and then they can leave the other 9 million to their dogsitter.

I’m expecting a letter giving her one last opportunity to tell me what a bad daughter I am.

But maybe a tiny dollar amount just to rub on in. I hadn’t thought of that one.

Anonymous wrote:Why on earth would you spend a second thinking about this?

My narcissistic mother could leave her stuff to Elon Musk and I couldn't care less.

Obviously there are people who think about this. If you don’t care why did you take the time to respond? Do you feel shame?

I am the daughter of a narcissist mother. I think what she will do is leave $1 to her children she most hated. A lawyer would advise against doing this because her estate could potentially be dragged out with family fighting. Pitting her children against each other brought her joy.
She hasn’t died yet but I don’t think it will end well. I will continue to stay estranged. I doubt if I will be notified about her death.

Why on earth would you spend a second thinking about this?

My narcissistic mother could leave her stuff to Elon Musk and I couldn't care less.

I am estranged from my mother and am totally fine knowing I will not be an heir. I assume she will give to her favorite charities. I’m just curious about others’ experiences. Did your narc parent viciously disinherit you by name and you heard this at the reading of the will, or were you simply omitted or were you surprised to inherit after all?