Anonymous
Post 12/05/2023 12:51     Subject: sending hugs to the moms and dads out there
^^ PP - I apologize for the snarky comment and am truly happy for your daughter.

The focus on DCUM about getting into a T20 is crazy.

Anonymous
Post 12/05/2023 12:45     Subject: sending hugs to the moms and dads out there
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If the stress levels are on the roofs, then that’s on all of you because there’s no reason it has to be that way for rational and normal people


I mean it’s a kind sentiment by OP but I agree with this. What exactly are you all stressed about?


Whether they can brag that their kid got into a T20 school.


Ours is opposite - the stress is whether our kid will get in anywhere as she does not have a strong academic record. She did get an acceptance last week, so at least we know she won't get all noes and can actually go away next year. But I'm just anxious to see if she will have any other choices.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2023 12:43     Subject: sending hugs to the moms and dads out there
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We’re not stressed at all. He’s in at the in-state option, which is perfectly good and affordable. My kid knows it’s up to him to work hard and make his own life happen. He’s not dependent being at the “perfect” school. If he gets into a reach, great. But there’s no guarantee his outcomes would be any better compared to State U. Research suggests it doesn’t matter either way - it’s all about the kid and their approach to life.


You didn't feel any stress before he got accepted?


The trick is to decide that every kid should go to community college, and it’s a waste of money to even try for anything else. And voila, zero stress!
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2023 12:42     Subject: sending hugs to the moms and dads out there
Anonymous wrote:My DH and I never felt that way when our DD was waiting for her results. Maybe we’re the outliers?
We were outliers too. We never felt or applied any pressure to get into a particular school. I knew my kid would get into at least one of the schools applied to.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2023 12:41     Subject: sending hugs to the moms and dads out there
Anonymous wrote:We’re not stressed at all. He’s in at the in-state option, which is perfectly good and affordable. My kid knows it’s up to him to work hard and make his own life happen. He’s not dependent being at the “perfect” school. If he gets into a reach, great. But there’s no guarantee his outcomes would be any better compared to State U. Research suggests it doesn’t matter either way - it’s all about the kid and their approach to life.


You didn't feel any stress before he got accepted?
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2023 12:39     Subject: sending hugs to the moms and dads out there
We’re not stressed at all. He’s in at the in-state option, which is perfectly good and affordable. My kid knows it’s up to him to work hard and make his own life happen. He’s not dependent being at the “perfect” school. If he gets into a reach, great. But there’s no guarantee his outcomes would be any better compared to State U. Research suggests it doesn’t matter either way - it’s all about the kid and their approach to life.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2023 12:34     Subject: sending hugs to the moms and dads out there
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If the stress levels are on the roofs, then that’s on all of you because there’s no reason it has to be that way for rational and normal people


Congratulations on having a rational and normal teenager I guess? I don’t think it’s all that irrational to want to see results from three and a half years (at least) of very hard work.


I don't even think that PP has a college aged teenager.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2023 12:19     Subject: sending hugs to the moms and dads out there
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If the stress levels are on the roofs, then that’s on all of you because there’s no reason it has to be that way for rational and normal people


I mean it’s a kind sentiment by OP but I agree with this. What exactly are you all stressed about?


Whether they can brag that their kid got into a T20 school.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2023 12:17     Subject: sending hugs to the moms and dads out there
Anonymous wrote:If the stress levels are on the roofs, then that’s on all of you because there’s no reason it has to be that way for rational and normal people


Congratulations on having a rational and normal teenager I guess? I don’t think it’s all that irrational to want to see results from three and a half years (at least) of very hard work.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2023 12:10     Subject: sending hugs to the moms and dads out there
Anonymous wrote:If the stress levels are on the roofs, then that’s on all of you because there’s no reason it has to be that way for rational and normal people


I mean it’s a kind sentiment by OP but I agree with this. What exactly are you all stressed about?
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2023 12:07     Subject: sending hugs to the moms and dads out there
My DH and I never felt that way when our DD was waiting for her results. Maybe we’re the outliers?
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2023 12:02     Subject: sending hugs to the moms and dads out there
If the stress levels are on the roofs, then that’s on all of you because there’s no reason it has to be that way for rational and normal people
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2023 11:13     Subject: sending hugs to the moms and dads out there
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:wow the stress levels are through the roof and maintaining a calm, rational vibe is super tough when I feel the anxiety as well.

My thoughts are with all of us that are hoping for the results our kids are hoping for and the strength and calmness to navigate.


If I could heart this, I would!


Me too!
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2023 10:57     Subject: sending hugs to the moms and dads out there
Anonymous wrote:wow the stress levels are through the roof and maintaining a calm, rational vibe is super tough when I feel the anxiety as well.

My thoughts are with all of us that are hoping for the results our kids are hoping for and the strength and calmness to navigate.


If I could heart this, I would!
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2023 10:33     Subject: sending hugs to the moms and dads out there
wow the stress levels are through the roof and maintaining a calm, rational vibe is super tough when I feel the anxiety as well.

My thoughts are with all of us that are hoping for the results our kids are hoping for and the strength and calmness to navigate.