Anonymous wrote:I feel like it’s been a slow burn for a while but now it’s just totally gone. I have tried to will myself to be attracted to him but I just can’t. I love him so much but just not attracted to him anymore. I’m not sure how to handle this. We have been together a very long time. I have always been of the belief that being physically attracted to each other was extremely important. And that’s just gone for me.
What exactly is the problem you’re feeling? That you want to be physically attracted to him but aren’t? Or that you want to have a healthy sexual relationship but can’t bring yourself to do it? Or that you want him to have a happy marriage with him without a sexual component?
If it’s the first thing, there may not be much you can do, but is there something he could change to suit you? If it’s the second thing, then yeah therapy sounds necessary. If it’s the third thing, be honest with your DH and help him find a FWB that you can trust him with.