Anonymous wrote:Examples needed.

Also, there is no treatment for cognitive decline. There are meds that slow down progression of particular forms of dementia.

I feel like examples are not needed. OP is right not to want to put up with this anymore.

Anonymous wrote:I saw this with a different relative combo (middle aged son and an elderly mom). I think your mom, like the mom I knew, won’t cut off the internet because it’s the only thing that buys her some peace.

I wish I had some answers for you. You have to go gray rock with your parents, maybe.

That’s what we have done. At least we aren’t fanning the rage flames in person now.

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Anonymous wrote:Honest question- if you blocked him on FB, how can he still follow you?

Sorry you’re dealing with this.

I’m no expert on FB, but that’s what I’m seeing under settings. It took a little hunting to find it, but it’s there.

If I can figure out how to remove the follow, I’ll share.

If you’ve blocked him, he cannot follow you.

I saw this with a different relative combo (middle aged son and an elderly mom). I think your mom, like the mom I knew, won’t cut off the internet because it’s the only thing that buys her some peace.

I wish I had some answers for you. You have to go gray rock with your parents, maybe.

Anonymous wrote:Honest question- if you blocked him on FB, how can he still follow you?

Sorry you’re dealing with this.

I’m no expert on FB, but that’s what I’m seeing under settings. It took a little hunting to find it, but it’s there.

If I can figure out how to remove the follow, I’ll share.

Tell your mother you will not be seeing either of them until she has proven to you that he no longer has access to the internet or a computer.

He's painting a big fat target on his own family. I would be livid. What can we do to stop people from sharing people's personal information?

Honest question- if you blocked him on FB, how can he still follow you?

Sorry you’re dealing with this.

Anonymous wrote:I can sympathize. My mother is in the process of being diagnosed with the kind of dementia where you lose your filter and inhibitions. She says cruel things and I am now telling my in laws not to calm her, not even to wish her a merry Christmas. I am afraid of what she will say. No problem with telling you that she prefers your sister etc.

What sister?

This sounds like my FIL. We just don’t visit. And he’s not welcome in our home. MIL isn’t allowed to take any photos of our kids because he will use them to trash us.

Call her

I can sympathize. My mother is in the process of being diagnosed with the kind of dementia where you lose your filter and inhibitions. She says cruel things and I am now telling my in laws not to calm her, not even to wish her a merry Christmas. I am afraid of what she will say. No problem with telling you that she prefers your sister etc.

Examples needed.

Also, there is no treatment for cognitive decline. There are meds that slow down progression of particular forms of dementia.

My father uses TruthSocial and other social media accounts to follow family members around and then doxx them. I have blocked him on FB, but he still follows me. I don’t have other social media platforms but I have seen some of his rants on his computer when I have visited. He leaves his computer out where everyone can see it. It seems like he wants us to see the rants. Some of them use our first names and other personal identifying information and then screed after screed.

After I saw them when we last visited, I told my mother that I would not visit with the family while he still has internet access at home. I have no desire or time to be fodder for his internet rants and neither do my kids or husband. The kids are old enough to understand what he is doing. He also trashes them online and complains about them.

He has always struggled with mental illness but now that he is being treated for cognitive decline, the mental illness has gotten worse.

Is there anything I can do from far away or do I just need to wait this out until he can’t do this anymore before I visit my mother? She is in better health but in total denial about his problems. He does see a doctor but not consistently and isn’t consistent with taking his prescriptions.