Anonymous
11/18/2023 14:46
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
Anonymous wrote:Let your son go enjoy the party. That's a no-brainer, OP.
Don't punish the boys over the rudeness of the other boys' parents, or over your fragile ego's reaction to it.
100% this.
Anonymous
11/18/2023 14:28
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
I actually think no show no reply is more polite then accepting an invitation and then not showing up.
Anonymous
11/18/2023 14:23
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
Did your son ever ask the no show friend what happened?
Anonymous
11/18/2023 14:21
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
Anonymous wrote:Let your son go to the party
So many of those people were very rude. Sorry you have to deal with that.
You should be made aware - there are parents, and we are one, who would not have sent our son to a paintball party.
Which is fine, as long as you promptly reply that you will not be there.
Anonymous
11/18/2023 14:20
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
Let your son go to the party
So many of those people were very rude. Sorry you have to deal with that.
You should be made aware - there are parents, and we are one, who would not have sent our son to a paintball party.
So many of those people were very rude. Sorry you have to deal with that.
You should be made aware - there are parents, and we are one, who would not have sent our son to a paintball party.
Anonymous
11/18/2023 14:14
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
Psycho. Let kids be friends.
Anonymous
11/18/2023 14:12
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
Let your son go enjoy the party. That's a no-brainer, OP.
Don't punish the boys over the rudeness of the other boys' parents, or over your fragile ego's reaction to it.
Don't punish the boys over the rudeness of the other boys' parents, or over your fragile ego's reaction to it.
Anonymous
11/18/2023 14:07
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
Of course your son should go. He was invited and is eager. Put your ego aside.
Anonymous
11/18/2023 14:01
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
The way to handle this is to let your son take the lead and then talk about it later if necessary. A lot of these things are temporary irritations or unkindnesses, and they may just go away with time.
If he experiences more unkindness or snubbing, then is when you sit down and help him think through it.
An incident is an incident. A pattern is a pattern. We are all served well by overlooking small incidents when possible, but with recognizing and dealing with patterns when we can.
If he experiences more unkindness or snubbing, then is when you sit down and help him think through it.
An incident is an incident. A pattern is a pattern. We are all served well by overlooking small incidents when possible, but with recognizing and dealing with patterns when we can.
Anonymous
11/18/2023 14:00
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
Talk about holding a grudge!
And in the process, you're keeping your own kid from going *which he's wanting to do)?
You're seeking "revenge ", I get it. And you're trying to "stick it to them" by withholding your own kid from their party (that's cruel to your kid).
I mean if you're unable to let it go just be passive aggressive about their no-show at your party.
Honestly, I'm betting the parents never got your invite? Did you follow-up? Did your kid point blank ask his friend if he's coming to paintball when this whole incident happened?
And in the process, you're keeping your own kid from going *which he's wanting to do)?
You're seeking "revenge ", I get it. And you're trying to "stick it to them" by withholding your own kid from their party (that's cruel to your kid).
I mean if you're unable to let it go just be passive aggressive about their no-show at your party.
Honestly, I'm betting the parents never got your invite? Did you follow-up? Did your kid point blank ask his friend if he's coming to paintball when this whole incident happened?
Anonymous
11/18/2023 13:58
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
Yes, you’re waaaay over reacting.
“I dont have the stomach to buy a gift, take the time to take and pick up my kid.”
“Partly I want the family to know what it is like to have no response and no show.”
Yes, you’re giving this and them much more importance, weight than a 11 year old birthday party at a paintball place deserves. Sure, it was rude of them to not show up after confirming yes (for the boy who did rsvp yes), for the one who never rsvp’d, you should have assumed it’s a “no” anyway. Not sure how you interpreted a no response as a yes and are angry about it a year later.
Wow. If this makes you slighted and boiling a year later, what do you do in a more serious hurtful situation?
“I dont have the stomach to buy a gift, take the time to take and pick up my kid.”
“Partly I want the family to know what it is like to have no response and no show.”
Yes, you’re giving this and them much more importance, weight than a 11 year old birthday party at a paintball place deserves. Sure, it was rude of them to not show up after confirming yes (for the boy who did rsvp yes), for the one who never rsvp’d, you should have assumed it’s a “no” anyway. Not sure how you interpreted a no response as a yes and are angry about it a year later.
Wow. If this makes you slighted and boiling a year later, what do you do in a more serious hurtful situation?
Anonymous
11/18/2023 13:48
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
Anonymous wrote:DS 11 moved schools last year. For his first bday in the new school (after a full school year) I invited 5-6 boys he indicated as close friends to paintball, through the parents. On the day, something like 2 kids were on time, 2 kids sharing a ride were an hour late and 2 kids were a no show, one had not replied to the invite at all and we found out later they hung out together that day. DS was sad about the whole thing, but we did the best we could under the circumstances, followed by a talk about maybe branching out to other boys.
This year, the no reply no show boy has a bday coming up, and DS is eager to go. I dont want him to and think he shouldnt go because the parents were so rude/clueless and the kid also never apologized or acknowledged.
Am I overreacting? Should I leave it at not inviting this kid again, but let my son go to his party? I dont have the stomach to buy a gift, take the time to take and pick up my kid. Partly I want the family to know what it is like to have no response and no show - though I doubt they care much.
You do know that the only person you’re going to hurt by doing this is your son, right? If you decline, the other family is not going to connect the dots that this is payback. Grow up. RSVP yes, buy a present, and chauffeur your kid.
Anonymous
11/18/2023 13:43
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
You are totally overreacting. Don’t kill your kids social life over something so dumb. I honestly cannot believe you even remember this a year later.
Anonymous
11/18/2023 13:43
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
You're overreacting. Don't punish either kid for the parents' thoughtlessness.
Anonymous
11/18/2023 13:39
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
DS 11 moved schools last year. For his first bday in the new school (after a full school year) I invited 5-6 boys he indicated as close friends to paintball, through the parents. On the day, something like 2 kids were on time, 2 kids sharing a ride were an hour late and 2 kids were a no show, one had not replied to the invite at all and we found out later they hung out together that day. DS was sad about the whole thing, but we did the best we could under the circumstances, followed by a talk about maybe branching out to other boys.
This year, the no reply no show boy has a bday coming up, and DS is eager to go. I dont want him to and think he shouldnt go because the parents were so rude/clueless and the kid also never apologized or acknowledged.
Am I overreacting? Should I leave it at not inviting this kid again, but let my son go to his party? I dont have the stomach to buy a gift, take the time to take and pick up my kid. Partly I want the family to know what it is like to have no response and no show - though I doubt they care much.
This year, the no reply no show boy has a bday coming up, and DS is eager to go. I dont want him to and think he shouldnt go because the parents were so rude/clueless and the kid also never apologized or acknowledged.
Am I overreacting? Should I leave it at not inviting this kid again, but let my son go to his party? I dont have the stomach to buy a gift, take the time to take and pick up my kid. Partly I want the family to know what it is like to have no response and no show - though I doubt they care much.